Women have many requirements for choosing their husbands, but it boils down to talented or wealthy men as their goal. But what about men, what kind of woman would they choose as their wife? Let's take a look together: When bringing a beautiful woman to the public, it's like showing off your Mercedes.
My long life experience in China has taught me that Chinese men are indeed "assiduously seeking" beautiful women. In history, few heroes have passed the beauty pass, and many men have suffered misfortunes due to their fascination with beautiful women. In modern society, there are still many Chinese men who inherit the "legacy" of their ancestors.
Chinese men value the appearance of their other half, which is directly related to the Chinese people's love of face. When he proudly brings the beautiful woman he pursues to the public, his vanity will be unprecedented satisfaction. In fact, it is also a demonstration of his competitive ability for survival, just as he shows off his Mercedes Benz or garden house to others.
Chinese men like to list "achievements" on marriage notices
French men also like beautiful women. However, when it comes to the beauty of women, the French distinguish between the two concepts of "beauty" and "beauty". Some girls are young and lively, have a good figure, but their brains are empty. This type of woman can only be called "beautiful" at most. On the contrary, some women are not outstanding in their body shape and facial features, and they are not particularly particular in their dress and attire, but they exude an irresistible charm and temperament, which makes them known as "beauties" by French men.
In contrast, Chinese men value beautiful appearance more. I have heard many people talk about their criteria for choosing a spouse, and the first requirement is to be beautiful. Foreign men are certainly not willing to marry someone with an ugly face back home, but in contrast, they value spiritual impact and communication of ideas more. Therefore, in the marriage advertisements published by foreign men, they often describe their hobbies and interests in detail, including what books they like to read, what TV programs they usually enjoy, and what sports they like to engage in. Then open the newspaper and read the Chinese men's marriage notice, which lists their "achievements", the most important of which are their economic status, degree, and a few bedroom house.
Chinese men don't necessarily need ideological communication, but they are more willing to communicate with same-sex friends, while women often only listen to their jokes. Chinese men enjoy the worship of women very much, and especially cannot tolerate women being stronger than themselves. Once this happens, they call each other "strong women.". In film and television works, the image of "strong women" is often not very good. In fact, this is a manifestation of gender inequality.
Chinese men are also particularly concerned about women's age
In addition to appearance, another important criterion for Chinese men to choose a mate is age. Open the newspaper and turn on the TV, and you will find that without exception, marriage seekers require the woman to be younger than themselves. Men aged 20-30 generally require the other party to be 1-5 years younger, while men aged 30-40 require the other party to be 5-15 years younger. A man over the age of 40 can generally only find a wife among his daughters or grandchildren. Foreign men also pay attention to the age of women, otherwise there will be problems communicating. But they don't particularly require women to be younger than themselves, and it doesn't matter how many years older they are. Therefore, the age range given in their marriage proposal is usually their own age plus or minus 5 years.
There is an article about a 34 year old mainland female student who met a 25 year old American guy. When she proposed to her, she couldn't believe her ears because it was almost unimaginable in China.
Now, there is a new term for this kind of love between young men and young women in China, called "sisterhood" or "old and young couples.". "This is still good to hear. If it's not good to hear, it means that men must have an" Oedipus complex ", while women mean" old cows eat tender grass. "". In contrast, old husbands and young wives are often told good stories in China.
Many young women use looks as a bargaining chip in marriage
It has been observed that a significant proportion of young women in China regard their appearance as a bargaining chip with men, and they value it far more than European women.
It can be seen that many young women in China have somewhat biased criteria for choosing a spouse, and they often hope to make their lives better through marriage rather than personal efforts. I find it difficult to accept this. Maybe I'm too conservative? I always believe that when two people are married, love is the priority factor that should be given. But then again, does their concept of spouse selection just cater to the psychology of many Chinese men who are willing to do everything to find a beautiful wife?
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)