Post Date April, 15 2023
Under the surface grandeur, there is a "small" character hidden beneath each man's leather robe, far less straightforward and distinct than women's
There is a male friend who is often proud of his foresight in family division of labor. He said that when he got married, he made predictions about the development prospects of different professions and chose a more promising profession, such as washing clothes. At first, it looked boring, but soon he had a washing machine, so he was liberated from this job; For example, mopping the floor, later equipped with a vacuum cleaner, also saved a lot of trouble compared to before; For many years, things like washing dishes and frying vegetables have not had a good future. Dishwashers have been around for many years, but there has been no trend towards widespread use. Therefore, whoever chooses them will have bad luck.
Although this is just a joke, most women never have such a plan when they get married. Speaking of this example, I want to illustrate that men are equally cautious, but in different forms. Women are on the surface, while men are at the bottom. After careful consideration, what men accuse women of being cautious about is nothing more than suspicion, haggling, and persistent fighting. Ultimately, it is mostly small matters that can be a bit annoying. However, the cautious and scheming displayed by men in officialdom, romance, and family can make people afraid. For example, the news I read in the newspaper many years ago: Men keep an account of everything they give to women when they fall in love, and calculate the total account when they break up; For example, when it comes to women's occasional infidelity or sexual assault, men's insanity cannot be described with great care compared with most women's tolerance and humiliation.
From a fair standpoint, I will not criticize men like men criticize women. Men and women have different worlds. Men live harder and harder than women. Whether they are big minded or cautious, fighting for the heart is a way of life for men in this society. It is a thinking mode rooted in their bones, and they will apply their heart to all suitable places, from the country to family life. When used in large places, it is called foresight and power; When used in small places, it is called a strategy, with vastly different performances and the need to wear a beautiful hat with a grand appearance.
Therefore, beneath the surface of magnanimity, there is a small character hidden beneath each man's leather robe, far from being as straightforward and distinctive as women. There are no so-called magnanimous men in this world, and those magnanimity is just a kind of political strategy. So I never believed in the ancient saying 'a prime minister can hold a boat in his belly'. Of course, there were many men in ancient times. On the surface, a prime minister can hold a boat in his belly. In fact, the choice of 'bending around' and 'worrying about gains and losses' in his heart is just a power technique that numbs the other party or seeks greater benefits. To put it well, it is called foresight, and to put it poorly, it is to be cautious. I have never believed the modern nonsense of "men are afraid of their wives" and "good men don't fight against women". When a man easily says he is afraid of his wife, what he shows in his bones is a sense of pride that everything is under control, and that caution is hidden in his pride; When a man uses the phrase 'good men don't fight with women' to prevaricate about something, it is both a sign of extreme contempt and a sign of lack of confidence. It is actually a very cautious approach, and it is far more insidious and 'petty' than women.
Compared to men, women appear very foolish. Their cautious eyes are just playing coquettish with men, not really seeking anything. It's like playing a small game within one's control, just to test the extent to which a man's relationship with oneself can still be maintained. So they often get entangled in some very annoying little things, get bored, get criticized, and ultimately lose control of the game.
A few years ago, there was a very popular book called "Women from Mars, Men from Venus", which mainly said that men and women are fundamentally different species from two planets, not only in terms of physiological structure, but also in terms of mental structure. On the issue of being cautious, men and women have different stances due to their different thinking, and men do not need or have the right to blame or complain about this matter. Just like most women know that men are careful with their eyes, but they can be very affectionate and not talk about it. Men also learn this way, which is truly magnanimous.
