My husband is looking for a new partner because I am too old-fashioned and have lost others. Is this marriage still necessary

My husband and I used to be an enviable couple. Despite his temper and many flaws, no one is perfect. I try not to consider these small issues as much as possible. I accept everything from him, and I believe in our emotions. When I was heartbroken and in agony, it was he who awakened me. My husband is my college classmate and also my best friend. We often talk to each other, and when I fell in love, he helped me with advice. When I fell in love, he comforted me. The last time I fell in love, it was also the day when he confessed to me.

After marriage, I have a very smooth life. Apart from my husband, I am the one in charge. In family life, I would rather endure some hardships myself than manage my family properly. I also have a job, with a low salary of only over 3000 yuan. My husband is more than twice as much as me, so I am more frugal, with less living expenses and less family pressure on him. Later on, I became pregnant and my mother-in-law asked me to quit my job and rest at home for the safe birth of his great grandson. He raised our family alone, and it hurt in my eyes and heart.

With the birth of a child, the pressure of life also increases. I returned to my work position and received a pitiful salary, so I didn't dare to spend money recklessly. I even saved my favorite clothes and cosmetics and went straight out with a plain face. I want to give my children a better life. Apart from saving, I don't know what else to do.

Sometimes, when a good friend buys clothes and doesn't want to wear them, they send me some. I dress well and feel happy, but my husband looks unhappy. It's my fault for not dressing up and dressing like a village maid, becoming more and more like a yellow faced woman. I thought he was joking and didn't take it seriously, but I didn't expect him to really dislike me. He was outside looking for a woman behind my back, throwing a lot of money at that woman. The salary paid was too low, so he told me that his performance was not good, and I encouraged him to 'it's okay, just try his best'.

He wants to destroy a family that is already not very wealthy. Looking back on the six months of abnormal married life, I began to feel wary. Observing his phone secretly, he used to hug the child or brag with me as soon as he came home, but now his focus is solely on his phone. While he was using the restroom, I clicked on his phone WeChat, and as expected, the ambiguous words made me feel cold. Judging from the chat records, they had been going on for three months, and I was looking at them vigorously. My husband came over, grabbed his phone, scolded me, and said I had violated his privacy.

I asked him to explain to me what happened to WeChat, but he didn't have any patience at all. He shouted, 'You're cheating, what's wrong? Look at the way you dress all day, that man is willing to take a closer look.'. I looked at the man in front of me in surprise, very unfamiliar. Why would I say such heartless words. I cried all night, and he lay beside me snoring and sleeping, completely disregarding my feelings. These days, he doesn't even have the intention to look at me. Excuse me, teacher, what should I do? What's wrong with everyone now? Why did he make a mistake and make me suffer this pain?

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

Hello. When you get married, you have common hobbies and pursuits. After getting married, if you focus solely on saving money and not paying attention to appearance, your ideological boundaries will become increasingly distant between you. A man wants face, and your image also represents his face. A man has a sense of expectation for women. If you are too messy, let alone face the problem of face, and remain plain all day without any novelty, he will gradually lose interest in you when he comes home and faces you like this.

On the contrary, dressing up beautifully not only brings freshness, but also saves face. Money is not saved, it is earned. Even if his infidelity is his fault, we should also look for the reasons behind ourselves. Marriage itself will gradually become dull, so we should increase the injection of freshness and enhance our temperament in order to increase our husband's attention. Calm down, reflect on it, and talk to him. If there is really no emotion left, plan for the next step.