Post Date April, 15 2023
In this era of more and more open sex, many things become uncontrollable, such as extramarital love, such as cheating. I believe that many people have quite a lot of questions about cheating after marriage. Why do so many people like cheating? Why do women forgive men who cheat, while men find it difficult to forgive women who cheat? What kind of pleasure will the derailment bring to them and make them happy
1、 The current society in which cheating prevails
According to a survey from the United States, only 15% to 20% of the total number of families are involved in affairs. Obviously, the phenomenon of extramarital affairs is not as serious as expected. People who hold this view (mostly men) just want to justify their behavior. Women will also be the victims of this view. They will blindly believe that men have the habit of flirting and become suspicious, and take excessive precautions against their husbands, thus undermining mutual trust. And trust is the cornerstone of a happy marriage.
It is undeniable that people's psychology of wanting to have an affair is indeed very common. Even some very traditional men and women sometimes have to compete with some kind of temptation. But the act of cheating is completely avoidable. The key is self-control. It is necessary to refrain from continuing to interact with a possible third party, and at the same time try to improve the intimate relationship with your spouse.
2、 Marriage with an affair will stir up waves
Yes, secret dating with the person you like outside your marriage is happy, and it is also the initial motivation of an affair. You will relive the feeling of love, revel in the beautiful fantasy and ignore the shortcomings of each other. But in less than half a year, you will be faced with a real world, which is boring, dull and uninteresting.
The monotony in marriage can be remedied. Change the established pattern, find common interests, and believe that your marriage will have new ideas and create miracles.
3、 If your partner has an affair, you need to solve it carefully
This practice of holding in mind will not bring good results. In fact, if one partner has an affair, the other partner will soon feel it, and any trace of one partner will cause anxiety in the other's spirit.
Therefore, the party who may be deceived should confess his doubts, but not to question, blame, and investigate, but to speak calmly. For example, you can talk about your dreams and let the other party know your worries. Of course, there may not be such a thing, but this frank communication will reveal some other problems. For example, her husband was upset and lost his "sex" interest recently. It turned out that he was in trouble at work. In modern society, the pressure of life is borne by both husband and wife, which has greater significance.
Even if your doubts are confirmed, it is valuable to speak frankly. Because things are clearly on the table, you are no longer in the dark and can make adjustments in the face of reality. You should know that whether a wife or a husband, the worst thing is to know that the other party has an affair without saying anything, and let it go, which will lead to the deformity and deterioration of the marriage relationship.
4、 Why does your partner cheat
There are not a few people who believe this and feel sorry for themselves, especially the wives. And unfaithful spouses will also shirk their responsibilities, seek excuses and often exaggerate. However, it is obviously illogical for one party to take the responsibility of the other party. In any case, when your spouse has an affair, it can only prove that he or she is willing to do so. It is only to make the adulterer feel more at ease by blaming you.
5、 Divorce is the best choice
In life, it is not wise to have a little sand in your eyes. In addition, divorce will also bring many or even more difficult new problems. Most marriages injured by extramarital affairs are worth and can be saved. At the same time, the shock caused by the exposure of an affair will also urge both parties to re-examine each other, sit down and listen to each other's inner voice. Many people will feel guilty and reflect on their previous behavior.
6、 Is the marriage with an affair complete
If neither husband nor wife wants to betray each other, then this marriage is a happy marriage; If one party's betrayal does not make the other suspect, then this is a complete marriage; If the betrayal is forgiven, then this is a successful marriage; If the betrayal cannot be forgiven, then this is an incomplete marriage; If betrayal is only for seeking comfort, then this is a formal marriage; If betrayal is not to seek comfort at all, then this is a failed marriage.
7、 You should understand that she doesn't love you anymore
Affective couples are very likely to have an affair, but the affair does not necessarily mean that they "do not love you". It is common for people who are infatuated with their lovers but still love themselves deeply. As you can see, most of the men and women who have affairs, including those who often commit such problems, are still unwilling to divorce. Perhaps for him, the attraction of an affair is only that he can escape the blandness of marriage life.
It is important not to react with disdain, irony and sarcasm to the wrong spouse when he/she expresses his/her love to you again, because this kind of love is very likely to come from the heart and should be regarded as a new beginning.
