Love Tips: When pursuing a girl, boys need to correct the six common mistakes they make

When pursuing a girl, her attitude towards you is getting worse and worse. That must be a mistake you made intentionally or unconsciously. Let's take a look at the behavior of the man that girls dislike the most. Hurry up and change your approach!

1. My efforts will definitely be rewarded!

Everyone has the same social experience, and hard work pays off. To put it bluntly, even if you move bricks, there will be some rewards when you move a few. So, naturally, I also want to marry the same concept to love. I like her and have no bottom line to be good to her. However, reality and wishes are different. You treat her infinitely well, and the rewards cannot actually increase accordingly.

When pursuing a girl, you invite her to dinner, you give her gifts, you patiently listen to her words, you care about her and please her, you think you have given everything you have, but in the end, you don't get what you want. Because you don't understand girls, if someone asks for apples and you give her a cart of pears, if you're tired, of course she's not happy. Do you think she should accept you for doing these things? She will happily fall into the love network you have woven yourself. But after all, what you are moved by is only yourself. She not only doesn't love you, but also seems to be getting farther and farther away from you.

Remember, there is no reciprocation in love. Payment is not paid in return. If she is not interested in your payment, reduce the payment. Not exposing one's emotional needs and maintaining a natural relationship will not bring pressure to girls. Otherwise, it will only make you work hard and unhappy.

2. It's right to chat with her!

Brainless approval, catering to all her opinions, everything follows her ideas. You may be happy to find that she is very happy and hasn't reported her cold face to you all day. She wants to talk to you and sometimes boasts that you are the same as she thinks. You think you will soon be able to enter her heart and let her enter your embrace. But in the end, you realize that she has become one of many ordinary friends of the opposite sex. Better ones may become brothers and gay honey.

You lost yourself to cater to her, and initially you may have fantasies that make your sister feel good. However, as time goes on and the topic deepens, she thinks you are a worthless and unattractive man. Why does that girl like you when you no longer have yourself? Can she like your things? There is no need to gain her approval, as no one likes buttocks. It's best to let her know that you are a person with principles and opinions. This is the key to attracting her.

3. My world is her infatuation

Many love declarations, sweet words, and insights, you think, are correct, but most of them are toxic chicken soup. These words are one-sided, love is a matter for two people, and love also requires personal space and oneself.

You feel that constantly sticking to her like this is a manifestation of love, which reflects your infatuation and professionalism. In fact, in the end, not only was she moved by you, but she even doubted - did you not have a life and career? Why only know to hold her phone and send her messages all day?

If you have your own standards, life, and profession. At this point, your mutual integration into a new world is the best state. It's not when you haven't figured out your priorities, your career hasn't improved, or your relationship hasn't been determined yet that you say 'you're my world', the girl will only say 'ha ha' to you. Girls like men who have their own lives. Only by managing their own lives well can they have reason to believe that being with you won't be boring.

Reduce the frequency of contacting her, and the premise of each conversation is to demonstrate your high value and increase her favorability towards you. Love is a gradually deepening process, don't be too anxious at first, learn to control your own sense of need.

4. Eager to express oneself

Men all have good face, but sometimes a face that is too swollen can become fat. Are you sure you're really happy? Things you don't have, things you don't have experience, things you don't have experience, places you haven't been to, and you don't know it. In order to avoid being timid in front of girls, you must express your own opinions that you don't really believe in.

We want to strive to express ourselves in front of the people we like, but the more eager we are to express ourselves, the more nervous and insecure we are at times. For example, girls like diving and may not even touch the water several times, so let's talk about the diving outline. Girls like to read books, and in order to showcase your culture, they have temporarily put on a Wen Qing posture.

But in her eyes, the more eager she is to say what she knows, the more she thinks you're dressed beautifully. The impression of you will also immediately decrease significantly. Don't deliberately express yourself, there's nothing shameful about not knowing. As a result, there is no perfect person. Only by maintaining their own style and confidence can girls interact with you normally. Only by being true to oneself can we attract people who truly appreciate you.

5. Unable to control confession

I believe that emotions must be passionate and honest, and it is normal to fall in love after confessing first. All men have very wrong ideas in their relationships. The relationship between the two is not very strong, but there is only an initial ambiguous relationship, and it is necessary to confess early. You think doing this can prove that you are honest and responsible, but in the eyes of girls, it is incomprehensible. Girls with normal thinking will be afraid of your candid behavior.

Emotional development has steps, premature, excessive, and unhelpful. For example, confessing early and always wanting to pester the other person can instantly shatter a girl's image. Confession is the triumph of victory, not the horn of attack. Strive to attract girls with one's own strengths, transform oneself without strengths, and make her transition from being interested to liking, then confession is natural.

6. Mistakenly believing that plain is equivalent to down-to-earth

She always says she likes men who are down-to-earth and dedicated. But you always misunderstand the meaning of being down-to-earth. Her down-to-earth thoughts are clear about her life goals and a sense of responsibility towards others. The blandness you displayed is that communication with girls is bland, chatting is bland, dating is bland, even chasing after each other is bland, from beginning to end. It's boring to say good things, and the man who says the key is a nightmare.

She and your love, marriage, as time goes by, except two people open their eyes, as if nothing can be done. Life turns into mud, and throwing stones will not cause waves. Any girl needs freshness and excitement, learns to create fun in life, learns to mobilize the emotions of others, and will not leave because she cannot tolerate your calmness.