In marriage, the couple seems to have a kind of flirting mentality. Only the feeling of being aloof can make the other party maintain a mentality that is about to get, but seems to be unable to completely control, so that the couple can always maintain their enthusiasm for each other. Just like friends, they are not as close as lovers, but not very distant, which can make couples feel fresh. Otherwise, they will soon become dull if they are too close.
When Xiaomin was ready to turn off the light for a rest, her husband had not come home yet. This kind of life was performed every day, like a recorder, again and again. Before marriage, Xiaomin was actively pursued by her husband. He promised to make Xiaomin the happiest woman in the world. In order to realize his promise, her husband would not hesitate to make money after marriage.
For a long time after marriage, the two had a very wasteful life. Every time her husband came home from a business trip, she would surprise Xiaomin. Unfortunately, this over-strenuous mode of making money always makes Xiaomin feel that her husband doesn't care enough about herself. Over time, there are more and more differences. Their marriage life is in danger. They often quarrel over trifles.
Last November's holiday, her husband's unit organized overseas travel. Xiaomin thought this was the best opportunity to improve their relationship, so she begged her husband to take her with her. However, her husband strongly objected. He wanted to have a good rest at home for a long holiday. He refused the invitation of the leader without Xiaomin's consent. Xiaomin was disgusted by her husband's arbitrariness. In a rage, she wanted to divorce her husband.
The husband still loves Xiaomin very much in his heart. He thinks that he is working so hard to make money in order to give Xiaomin a better life. After a long holiday, he should have a good rest, but she doesn't understand herself. The husband suggested that the two people calm down for a period of time, and agreed with Xiaomin that they should respect each other as friends and not interfere with each other's life casually.
The two people lived like friends for about two months. During this time, they became more polite and Xiaomin no longer lost his temper with her husband. In addition, she understands her husband's work more and more. She no longer asks her husband to do more things for herself. Sometimes she stealthily brews a cup of hot tea and brings it to her husband's study. The tense relationship between husband and wife is slowly improving imperceptibly.
Those who feel that each other is a husband and wife, so they should demand and hurt each other, only later found that this way of getting along is not for happiness. So try to let marriage degenerate into friendship, give each other enough respect and space, and marriage can last for a long time.
What causes this phenomenon? The root cause is the lack of basic respect between husband and wife. Many people think that if two people get along for a long time, they have the right to ask others to pay for themselves, and always hope to get something from each other. After this kind of life has been brewing and fermenting for a long time, it has slowly changed its flavor, and then found that the marriage is in danger.
When the relationship between husband and wife degenerates into friendship, we can find that both parties can be more tolerant and considerate of each other, will not interfere with each other's life at will, and will not attack each other with words at will. Friendly relationship can make two people get along more peacefully, and they don't always want to control each other. When one party provides assistance to the other party, the receiving party will not take it for granted, but will give sincere thanks. Getting along with friends can make the relationship between husband and wife more harmonious.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)