Post Date April, 15 2023
In my third year of marriage, I unexpectedly became pregnant. My husband and I discussed the issue of whether to have a child multiple times, and ultimately decided to bring this new life into the human world.
I have been resting for less than two months during my pregnancy and confinement in order to ensure my professional status is not affected. My boss has advised me to rest more, but I can feel that there will be a pursuit after that.
With the birth of the child, finding a nanny is urgent. My husband recommended a woman to me and falsely claimed that she was a distant relative of a colleague at work. When I saw the nanny first, I felt that she was beautiful and agile, so I readily agreed. The other party is an unmarried girl in her early twenties. I told the nanny that while taking care of the children, she can also go to my study to read more books. If there is a chance in the future, she can be recommended for a slightly more decent job.
I thought I wasn't a harsh employer, but I didn't expect that I was luring the wolf into the house. One day when the class returned home, the husband sat on the sofa with a gloomy face, and the nanny's eyes were red, indicating that she had just cried. I mistakenly thought that it was my husband who spoke rudely to the nanny that made her cry. I even deliberately taunted my husband in front of the nanny, trying to give her a step down. Unexpectedly, my husband knelt in front of me and cried, saying, "I'm not a human being.
Lift the husband up and ask what happened. It turned out that the nanny was not a distant relative of his colleague at all, but rather his former subordinates and his lover. That woman is very obsessed with her husband. Coincidentally, my family urgently needs a nanny. So, in order to see her husband a few more times every day, the woman actually committed herself to my home as a nanny.
Now that the woman is pregnant and refuses to have an abortion, the husband only realizes that he has caused a big disaster. Seeing that the matter could not be concealed, he had to seek help from me. In the end, the conversation between the two women led the woman to choose to leave my home while also having an abortion.
On the surface, in the game of two women competing for a man, I won completely, but now I am really unhappy. I want to divorce, but I feel like there are always some factors that hinder me. What should I do about the future?
Reply:
All love has its purpose, and the woman is obsessed with your husband, either because she worships his youth and achievements, or because she hopes that your husband will make her become a junior. From the fact that the woman is lurking in your house as a mistress, it can be seen that she loves your husband very much, and she loves him very hard and passively. Imagine, how could a mischievous mistress wrongly treat your family as a nanny?
The reason why your husband staged such a scene is that it is urgent to find a nanny. Your husband likes him based on that woman, knows that she is willing to do anything for him, and feels that giving your child to that woman is the most reassuring. Therefore, your husband recommended that woman to you, and secondly, occasionally seeks excitement with that woman without your knowledge.
After the woman became pregnant, your husband advised her to have an abortion, indicating his stance on marriage. It's more like your husband's attitude towards Xiao San drove Xiao San away than saying you repelled him.
Evaluation of your husband: There is no doubt about his intelligence, emotional intelligence preschool.
Your current unhappiness stems from your husband's betrayal.
I can see that your husband has not lost his way home, and you are not planning to divorce, so I tried to forgive.
There are many factors that hinder you from making the decision to divorce: the relationship you and your husband have accumulated over the years, your children, friends you have seen together, social relationships you have accumulated, and the feelings of both parents.
I believe that the unexpected pregnancy of a nanny can have an impact on your husband as well. He will learn a lesson and be grateful for your forgiveness, and from then on, he will wholeheartedly treat you well.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
