A few days ago, I received an interview with Beijing Radio One. The news reported that there was a husband in Guangdong who was despised by his wife for having no money or skills. In a fit of anger, he slapped his wife and it didn't matter if he slapped her. She ran away and refused to go home for half a month. Helplessly, this seemingly charismatic husband did a "big deal" - ran to the overpass and knelt down in public to apologize to his wife. While kneeling, he muttered, "Wife, I was wrong. I don't want to have self-esteem anymore. Come back
In China, it is normal for women to complain that men lack money. They can shout it out loud and it is becoming increasingly reasonable and straightforward. But Chinese men, even if they are disliked by women, often dare not speak up because it means saying to everyone, "I don't have money or skills, I can't satisfy women's money desires
So, when Zhou Yumin said, "I broke up with Big S because of money back then, and the boys had weaker earning ability than the girls, so they lacked the right to speak." Suddenly, he admired this young man, at least he said many things that Chinese men wanted to say but were embarrassed to say because of face.
Undeniably, in a romantic relationship, money can determine many things: in a family, whoever earns the most is the head of the family, leading everyone; Between husband and wife, whoever earns more money can act coquettishly and manipulate the other party; In love, whoever earns more is less afraid of falling out of love, because the other party will actually treat you as a treasure. So, the value of emotions often comes from the value of the material you possess.
Many girls do not marry a bad husband, they just marry a husband who is not as good as her, but they have such a restless and almost deathly heart. Everyone criticized them for worshipping money, but Chinese women worshipped money with righteousness: "I don't love money, I just love men with money. That represents men's abilities
Women never accept 'marrying down', so over time, a set of hidden rules of marriage has formed: women cannot marry down, men cannot marry high.
Once someone breaks the rules, men will be mocked as soft eaters, and women will be mocked and have no vision. Even celebrity trendy men and women like Zhou Yumin and Big S cannot escape this ancient cycle of marital mentality. In fact, marriage is like cross talk, where there should be humorous and humorous characters. It should not have two heads at the same time, and there should be both main and auxiliary characters. Although every woman hopes that a man can carry everything in life, it's also worth considering: he's just a man, he's not a superhero. Chinese women always think of men as too invincible, so they often live too lost. Reminder sisters: Do not overestimate men's strength and do not underestimate women's abilities.
Only if a woman can truly accept a man who is less than a hundred percent, perhaps it is truly possible to achieve a hundred percent happiness.
When a man and a woman are carefully calculating who is better than whom, it means that the breakup is not far away. A man and a woman with too many 'money relationships' can easily become' pre relationships'. Because in love, what is needed is combination, not comparison. A man and a woman who can often compare their gains and losses in terms of "money" must only lose but not win in "love"!
Friend, do you agree with the view that 'the hidden rule of marriage is that women cannot marry down and men cannot marry up'?
Nowadays, Big S is the ace leftover woman in the entertainment industry. Faced with her, men are under pressure, and in front of women who are so capable, so profitable, and have such high standards and strict requirements, men are always trembling. It can be seen that once a relationship involves too many "money" factors, there will always be no too perfect ending. Love is never suitable to be linked to "accounts". With the existence of money, men and women are more likely to become opponents of mutual calculation.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)