Post Date April, 15 2023
1. Fear of marriage
A man who has been in love for a long time still doesn't want to marry you, not because he doesn't love you enough, but because he is afraid of marriage and doesn't have the mental preparation to enter it.
In modern society, the divorce rate has risen sharply, and people no longer trust marriage. In the past, I thought that marriage could last long and let the other party stay with me all the time, but now all kinds of temptations are everywhere. No matter men or women can resist the temptation to cheat. Sometimes men start to fear marriage when they see their friends get married and leave.
2. Not prepared
Don't think men will be excited when you suddenly say you want to marry. Your sudden remark is like a sudden attack on a man. Love is different from marriage. If a man wants to get married, you should give him enough mental preparation, not surprise him. Otherwise, men are easily scared away by you.
Before you propose to marry him, you might as well give him more time to make mental preparations, for example, often mention the happiness of others after marriage around him, give him a hint, and check whether he is ready to marry.
3. Fear of commitment
Don't think men are brave enough. In fact, men are also cowardly. Many men are afraid of commitment. They are afraid of taking responsibility for their commitments. The cells that do not want to be responsible are basically the same as male hormones, and are rooted in male genes. The difference is that some men are more, and some men are less.
Marriage means commitment. It means that you should treat this person well, treat her well, and stay with her all your life. This commitment is too long. It is like a shackle that binds him. Men don't want to spend their lives so soon.
4. Afraid of changing their life style
People are not willing to change their accustomed life style. If you don't understand, look at the colleagues who complain about their work every day but still haven't changed jobs. Because we have been used to it for many years, it will take some time to readjust to the sudden change, and many people do not want to change their life mode casually.
Marriage means that the two people want to live together. It is more likely that they live together as a family. Problems such as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, private life, etc. came one after another. You have to adapt to the bad habits of the other party. It seems that everything is good for the other party in love, but not necessarily after marriage. If a man has decided to change his life style, he is ready to get married.
5. Don't want to give up the whole forest
Many men are very flirtatious. He can have many girlfriends and many sexual partners, but his wife can only have one. Many men are unwilling to let him give up the whole forest and enter the tomb of marriage. Although not many men like three wives and four concubines, it is an indisputable fact that marriage equals giving up the right to choose. If it were you, the whole street is full of boutiques. Would you like to enter only one of them in your life?
So a man would rather lose you alone than lose the whole forest.
6. Too much pressure
Love is a matter of two people. You can go out to eat big meals every day, you can go out to be crazy every night, you can be a moonlight clan... marriage is a matter of two families. When you are in love, you don't look at your family or your savings. You only focus on your feelings. When you feel right, you will be together. But marriage is not the same. You may pay more attention to the right family and be your wife.
You don't have to bear too much when you are in love, but it's different after marriage. After marriage, you have to shoulder the responsibility of the whole family. Now most of the post-80s generation are only children, and you two should shoulder the responsibility of supporting four elderly people. This is a heavy burden, and the pressure is too great.
7. Don't love you
If none of the above is the reason why your boyfriend doesn't want to marry you, then there is only one reason: he doesn't love you at all.
People's sense of responsibility is getting lower and lower. The past is like a laughingstock. Who said that would represent the old-fashioned. If a man loves you enough, he will never escape. He will be more nervous than you, hoping to bring you into the marriage palace and make you the only one of himself. If he loves you enough, he will take all the responsibilities and love you all his life.
Please don't escape from this topic. Nowadays, many men have a playful attitude towards feelings and have no intention of marriage at all. If you find that your man is such a devil of the world, I advise you to break up early and find your own happiness. Although such a choice is painful, it is more reliable than wasting your youth.
(Intern editor: Chen Hao)
