Post Date September, 25 2023
What is love? What is the relationship between love, sex, and marriage? What do people want from love. For these issues, perhaps everyone has their own experience and perspectives, so the understanding and experience between the East and the West, as well as between Chinese and foreigners, are very similar. Or is it completely different? With this string of questions in mind, I visited some foreign friends I know and found that love is diverse and difficult to define. Perhaps this is precisely the touching aspect of love and why it has become an eternal theme in literary and artistic creation for thousands of years.
Marriage is a contract, and men and women must be equal
He is a slightly darker skinned Swiss young man with blue eyes, in his early thirties, studying international politics. He asked me to call him "Doctor of Love".
When it comes to the differences in marriage concepts between China and foreign countries, he said, "I thought Chinese people had a misconception that Westerners tend to have sex as casually as having breakfast. In fact, that's not the case. I think Chinese people have more open sexual attitudes than foreigners. For example, in bars, Chinese men can often be seen with their lovers. I know that some Chinese men have mistresses, which is unacceptable in the West. In my opinion, Marriage is loyalty, a serious contract. Both men and women must be fair. If you decide to spend the rest of your life with one woman, you should not look for other women outside. Otherwise, it will be unfair. Of course, in some marriage relationships, both men and women have lovers and no one interferes in their lives. I think this kind of marriage relationship is unhealthy.
Perhaps, the life of Westerners before marriage tends more towards human nature. For example, when you reach adulthood, at the age of seventeen or eighteen, if you have emotional or sexual demands, you can be satisfied. With the increasing pressure of people's lives, their inner world becomes increasingly lonely, and their emotional and instinctive needs become more specific. It is impossible for you to easily find your ideal lover, so what should you do? I have to pay more attention to my own needs and the needs of my body, which can sometimes be short-lived. In the 1970s, there was a sexual liberation movement in the West, and now there are strong sex education courses. In particular, after the discovery of AIDS, in order to strengthen sexual health education, many terrible pictures of sexually transmitted diseases were displayed. As a result, sex became more scientific and lost its romantic and mysterious colors of the past.
