The problem now is, I don't know if my husband has broken up with the third child. He still comes home very late every day. I called him to answer the phone and said that he would come home late because of something, or he would go online and go home later. He also said that he would not betray again and would live well, but I don't believe it.
If he came back early, he would still play on his cell phone until late at night, and then delete all the things in his cell phone. If he really repented, I would look at the face of my two children and not pursue it again, but he still kept the third's WeChat. I asked him why he didn't speak. I don't know what he thought?
His infidelity hit me too hard. The key is that he refused to admit it. Later, he admitted it. He also felt that he was justified and had no serious meaning.
Should I continue to accommodate and retain such a man?
reply:
At present, the proportion of men cheating is increasing. Many men are not ashamed or proud of their cheating and do not face up to their cheating. Faced with the noise and reprimand of his wife, he either remained indifferent or handled the matter, which made women very angry and led many families to stay away from the embrace of happiness.
Just like your husband, why do some men, after cheating, either simply refuse to admit it, or admit it in an indifferent and rightful manner?
Brother Shan believes that there are many reasons for the abnormal mentality of men after cheating.
First, women are not independent and self-reliant.
According to many cases of cheating, why do some men become arrogant, arrogant and unrepentant after cheating? Don't even pay attention to your wife? One of the fundamental reasons is that he thinks his wife is a vulnerable group and easy to bully. He thinks that his wife has no job and no income at home. He has to rely on his man for everything and is very dependent on him. Without their own social circle and financial resources, the transition from economic independence to personality independence is inevitable. Women's lack of independence and self-improvement will make men have a strong sense of self-superiority, will promote his arrogance of cheating, and will make him fearless after cheating.
Second, men's low morality and male chauvinism
Although the current era calls for equality between men and women, however, from the perspective of men themselves, many men are still unable to truly recognize equality between men and women in their hearts, and still have the idea of male chauvinism. For example, many times, men will think that washing and cooking are women's business, and taking care of the elderly and children is women's business. In the same way, men will feel that it is men's business to work hard outside, and it is also indifferent for men to be successful in their careers and engage in affairs outside. Men will feel that as long as I earn money home, so that you don't need to eat and drink, you don't need to intervene too many men. Even if I cheat, I don't affect family and marriage, and you don't need to intervene. This is the typical self-centered self-interest mentality of men, and the lack of moral self-discipline mentality. Driven by this mentality, it is easy to lead to their physiological straight and strong psychology after cheating.
Third, the negative influence of social abnormal culture
The social reasons are relatively complex. In today's social environment, with the prevalence of money-worship and hedonism, many people's values begin to be lost, which is reflected in the men's class, that is, whoever has the power and power can dominate everything, and can win the admiration and respect of others, even the worship of women, and go to various entertainment places for recreation and consumption; Going to dance halls and nightclubs to talk about business has become commonplace; On the female level, in order to satisfy their vanity, they can go to the rich, find a lover, or even become the third and fourth. In many cases, it is precisely because some women indulge in their own morality and bottom line, which leads to and stimulates men to look down on women, disrespect women, and even trample women underfoot. Therefore, it is natural to think that his cheating is not a big deal. In this society, men are not the same, or think that his cheating is the result of other women taking the initiative to throw themselves in arms, so a sense of rightness is generated.
For your husband's performance, if he shows such a state after cheating, it can be identified as three wrong views and moral degradation. If he can't face up to his own problems and has no intention of repentance, of course, there is no need to accommodate and retain. The more you compromise and compromise under various excuses, the more self-indulgent and arrogant he will become. For a man who does not repent and is not aware of his mistakes, you can't let him suffer and pay a price. For this reason, you must try to make yourself ruthless and unfeeling, otherwise, you really can't change the status quo, and you can only let yourself continue to bear the damage he has brought to you.