Post Date April, 15 2023
35% of women and girls worldwide have suffered physical or some form of sexual violence; Nearly 90% of the victims of domestic violence in China are women, and 24.7% of women have been subjected to various forms of domestic violence such as spousal abuse, beatings, and economic control. She may be your mother, child and sister! Today is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women.
Why are women victims of domestic violence?
Many men seem to be very strong on the surface, but in fact, they are very self-confident and even inferiority complex. They call names and beat people in order to suppress inferiority and build self-confidence. And as the closest, most knowledgeable, most vulnerable and most defenceless person around them, the wife was the first to be abused by their "inferiority complex".
1、 Inferiority complex
Although many men are strong on the surface, in fact, they are very self-confident and even inferiority complex. He cursed, beat and punished others, but in fact it was a process of suppressing inferiority and building self-confidence. Especially as the closest, most knowledgeable, most vulnerable and least defensible person around him, his wife bore the brunt and became the "first person" abused by his "inferiority complex". In real life, most of the women who are abused by this kind of abuse are relatively excellent and have a gentle personality, and her excellence just deepens his inferiority complex.
2、 The psychology of revenge
What is more frightening than Yoyue's psychology is the retaliation psychology. Many men can show their submissiveness and obedience to you before marriage, but after marriage, they will completely change themselves, which can not rule out the possibility of retaliation.
A man's speech, He said: "Before getting married, she and her family didn't treat me as a person. I was left to do all the dirty and heavy work in the family alone. They always said that I was not as good as her brother in front of me. I made her angry by making a joke and coaxed her to ignore me for a week. She often kept me waiting for an hour when dating. She was so disrespectful. Now that I'm married, I don't have to look at her face anymore. Anyway, I'm tired of this day Yes, she has loved, but I can't wait! " (The weak says, what's wrong with this woman? A man who is willing to find such a woman is also a loser...)
Of course, this is just a kind of man's revenge psychology, that is, revenge after marriage before marriage. But there is also a more common revenge, that is, in addition to remarriage through marriage, there was a woman who had an affair. In addition, there may also be revenge because she was not good to his parents or made him lose face on some occasions. All these things, big or small, will pile up because of his narrow-mindedness, and finally form an endless retaliation mentality. When the previous retaliation fails to sew up his "injured mentality", then the later retaliation will become even more severe... In short, this kind of retaliation man has the least quality and the most terrible. In addition to breaking up and controlling violence with violence, it seems really difficult to find good countermeasures.
3、 Embodiment of self-superiority
Of course, in addition to the inferiority complex mentioned above, men's sense of superiority is sometimes very terrible. When a man is always used to comparing himself with his wife, and can compare some "excellent", he is also prone to commit paranoia in "scolding his wife".
Most of these men are capable. They show great excellence in both hands and brains, social status and economic income. Therefore, when he faced his wife at home, he always felt that she could not do many things to satisfy him, and often asked her with his own standards and abilities. When she shows a little dullness, or when he is stimulated by a little bit of the outside world, he will be like a angry lion, open his mouth and hate to eat others. This is a reflection of his inner sense of superiority. He needs to scold and "punish" his wife to fill the gap between him and his wife.
To deal with this kind of man, you should constantly improve yourself, try to be independent in life, spirit and economy, and constantly strengthen learning. Tell him subconsciously that you also have many advantages over him. Don't have too many disputes with him when you are in a quarrel. If you want to quarrel, you should catch him and criticize him to the death, so that his sense of superiority will disappear. Otherwise, you can simply ignore his existence, let him talk to himself, and let him feel that ignoring is the greatest counterattack to his sense of superiority.
4、 Hereditary gene
Based on this point, I don't want to say more. I just want to say that: dragon begets dragon, phoenix begets phoenix, and mouse's son can make holes! When you married him, you opened your eyes. How much you should consider about his family's personality and temper at ordinary times.
5、 Split personality, abnormal psychology
The last one is a comprehensive reflection of the above four psychological states, and is the "cerebral palsy" phenomenon derived from the failure of the above four psychological states to be cured in time. The best way to deal with such patients is to let doctors treat them.
