Post Date April, 15 2023
"We are now learning LADYFIRST, in fact, to atone for thousands of years ago. Especially Chinese men, they owe too much to women.".
Some Western feminists believe that LADYFIRST is an insult to women. Let's leave it alone for now. Don't think about flying, let's learn to walk first.
Ten years ago, in a place called Karamay in Xinjiang, a man said a famous saying that can be passed down through the ages. At that time, in a theater, hundreds of children and their teachers were performing, with leaders watching. The fire rose and there was chaos. At this moment, a person shouted, "Let the leader go first."
This sentence will stimulate our nerves for at least 100 years.
However, we should also see progress.
A year ago, in the Yantai shipwreck, the Dashun was about to sink, and the lifeboat was lowered. A waiter shouted, "Let women and children go first." The men were all clinging to the wall and did not snatch it.
That would be too embarrassing.
In fact, this is not called face, it's called demeanor.
If there is still hope in this country, it is reflected in these NB men.
It's not as simple as LADYFIRST.
As a Chinese woman, I never know what women first means. What I remember most is the days of collective life in the past, such as in college, when meals were served in the cafeteria every day, during the school holidays at the beginning of each semester, and when it comes to queuing and crowding, we were surprised to find out why Chinese men couldn't play the World Cup, and why they couldn't win several championships in the arena: they used too much physical strength and prestige to compete with women and children.
This is not surprising, because Chinese culture never cultivates gentlemen, so there is no way to seek gentlemanly demeanor. Although it is said that the main body of the world is always male, whether at home or abroad, there are still significant cultural differences in displaying power: there is an element of arrogance and hegemony in the strength of Chinese men. The so-called male superiority and female inferiority, why should I give way to a woman? They should all serve me; After liberation, with the establishment and development of the idea of equality between men and women, men have found a new reason not to be gentlemen. Since they are equal, each holds half the sky, why should I let you? So there was a sense of bargaining in it. In the strength of Western men, there is always an atmosphere of humility. Anyway, the main body of the world is already ours, so there is no need to eliminate all the superiority of women in the details of life. Properly reserving a bit of consideration and service in it will make women's psychology more comfortable, and also better reflect men's hearts and values. The difference between arrogance and atmosphere, between bullying the weak with the strong and accommodating the weak with the strong, is indeed a thousand miles.
That year, when I was 5 months pregnant, I took a bus once, and when I got on the bus, I saw that no one around me meant anything to me. I was very clever and waited for everyone to get on before I got on. Standing in the carriage, I didn't feel anything wrong. On the contrary, it was the people with seats who resented me. I even read the words from their uneasy eyes: "If I'm pregnant and don't take a taxi, what bus should I take?". It was the conductor in her 40s who couldn't stand it and shouted at a young man pretending to sleep to get up and give me the mother baby seat. As a result, he angrily said, "I managed to grab a seat, so many people, why should I give it up?" At that moment, my understanding of Chinese men was strengthened again, and I felt that he should indeed sit down because he needed it more than I did.
Of course, it's not without any benefits for men to do this. For example, the objective effect is very good. Since women have received physical training that they do accompany exercises at any time and place since childhood, their potential has been developed earlier and their psychological qualities are more comprehensive than those of foreign women in competition and competition, resulting in Chinese women who are not tall and can actually achieve weightlifting in the international sports arena The champion of multiple events such as judo, of course, is something that Chinese men didn't expect.
It is said that when the World Trade Center collapsed in New York and people fled, the disabled, the elderly, and women still enjoyed the right to take the first step. Not to mention whether the news is true or not, this statement alone has made a woman like me feel hot - that step may be the difference between life and death, but a man has given the opportunity to a woman. Can a man like that not be respected? It's a pity that a good man like that died innocently in the flames.
Is there a "lady first" in China? After 30 years of living as a lady, I have found that the Chinese men's preference for women is only reflected in one place: when taking a seat in a Western restaurant, a more elegant man will pretend to help the woman pull out the chair and ask the woman to take her seat first. Don't be fooled by him, thinking he's a real gentleman. You see, when you squeeze a bus on the street, he must leap forward courageously. Did he take a look at the elderly, children, pregnant women, and women who were pushed aside by him? When assigned to an interview after graduation, he not only won't give priority to female classmates, but it's also entirely possible to secretly shoot a competitive female opponent like that. Even when he arrives at the company and faces various opportunities for promotion and salary increase, he will never give priority to women. Would it be better if every woman gave him priority. Being ruthless towards other women should give priority to your own wife. The situation is even worse. When a Chinese man marries his wife back, he all wants her to be both a nanny and a strong woman, with a deep affection for him and no regard for his mistresses. In short, all the benefits belong to him, and all the bad things are endured silently by her. This is their "priority".
The weaker a man is, the less graceful he is, and the narrow-minded a man is bound to become increasingly incompetent. This ebbs and flows, and Yin flourishes and Yang declines. Finally, a man shouted out the last words: "Is it necessary for women to give priority? Why not men? Why not have a Men's Day? Men also need to be cared for..." Men are as fleshy as advertising words, directly asking women for the power of weakness, the power of depression, the power to eat soft meals, the power to write stories that have to be told, and the power to demand support. Alas, in the 1980s, people in a country called for men, but now they no longer call for "the right to male weakness". Is it progress or degradation?
Like all kind-hearted women in the world, I reserve one last face for men: Could you please help me pull up the chair? Could you help me open the door, please? Let them pay the bill once when it's not too big. Let this pitiful "lady first" remain, even if men no longer need such a cover up and can directly degenerate to the end, women still need fantasy.
