Post Date April, 15 2023
When a high-quality leftover woman finally decides to marry herself, she always faces such a choice... For these two types of men within the range of choices, which is more proud of her to deliver a lifetime?!
Talk about the distress of a leftover woman: she is graceful and graceful, belonging to the category of white collars. I haven't married yet, not because I can't get married, but because I don't know who to marry in order to reach the highest level. There are two types of men in front of her. One type is opposite to "leftover women" and is called "leftover men". One type is called "divorced men". I have no derogatory meaning when calling it this way, it is purely for the convenience of narration. At present, she is wandering between two types of men, unsure of where to go. However, her personal preference is more towards divorced men. The reasons seem quite sufficient, as follows.
1. Say 'leftover man'. The reason why leftover men are leftover men is mostly because they are not accepted by society, have little ability to establish themselves, have no social status, and women are unwilling to marry them, so they are "leftover". Moreover, they lack mature insights and actions towards marriage, making them relatively immature. Once the economic and family pressures they bear increase, they will panic and even collapse.
2. Talking about divorced men. The reason why divorced men divorce is because they can face up to marriage and belong to normal men. Their economic capacity and family foundation are relatively stable, and there won't be too much storm. Moreover, most of them already have a social status and will not easily face social abandonment. In short, they are relatively mature, experienced, and able to approach marriage, maintain it, and develop it as a true man.
After listening to her passionate argument, I only smiled slightly. Indeed, what she said is quite reasonable. However, I think there is still room for refutation, as follows.
1. Also known as leftover men. Some of the reasons why leftover men are leftover men are not accepted by society. However, most of it is due to a temporary reluctance to get married. They are waiting for the opportunity to mature, hoping to take advantage of their youth and strength, fully accumulate, and strive to unleash their intelligence and strengthen themselves. After marriage, it can give oneself a breathing opportunity and also provide a stable guarantee for the family. In fact, they are not lacking in social status, but gradually solidifying their social status. Their future is very big.
2. Also known as divorced men. The reason why a divorced man divorced is because he caused problems in his marriage. They seem mature and experienced, but in fact, they are just a superficial layer of luxury that can be easily pierced with just a poke. Their so-called foundation, even if it can be relied on, will not be too long. Moreover, they have a sense of pride that has gone through countless hardships, and it is difficult for them to bring out the sweetness of their first marriage when dealing with women. Even if it is sweet, it is somewhat artificial. If they had children by their side, women might cry in the middle of the night.
The benevolent see the benevolent, the wise see the wise, and so on. Who is better than the remaining male PK divorced male? No one can say for sure. In her eyes, perhaps divorced men are better. In her other eyes, perhaps the remaining male is better. In her eyes, perhaps all the remaining divorced men are excellent. In her eyes, perhaps the remaining divorced men are not good. In the eyes of the rest of her, perhaps there are still men who are divorced, regardless of whether they are good or not.
So, leftover men are leftover men, and divorced men are divorced men. Even if the PK is shocking and dark, it's not very interesting. Whether it's a leftover man or a divorced man, suitable for any woman is considered excellent for that woman. This is the truth, eternal and unchanging.
So, what exactly is suitable? I believe that at least the following four points should be met.
1. We truly love each other. Without true love, getting married ten thousand times is also a waste. Not to mention any leftover or divorced men.
2. Having a harmonious personality. With true love, if one's personality doesn't match, it's easy to have problems. Only by understanding one's personality can one grow for a long time.
3. Equivalent abilities. Whether it is economic ability, sexual ability, or other abilities, they should be equivalent. Otherwise, bumps often come knocking on the door.
4. Parents agree. I originally intended to ignore this point, but I feel that it must be taken seriously. If both parents disagree, the couple will definitely have a difficult time together.
At this point, I have finished my verbosity. It's purely my personal opinion. I don't know if the leftover woman who is troubled by the divorce of the leftover man is better is satisfied. If you are not satisfied, you can confess. Honesty is a traditional virtue. Finally, I sincerely wish her the best of luck in finding her husband as soon as possible.
(Intern Editor: Zhao Minqing)
