Post Date April, 15 2023
I met him at work. He guided me a lot in work and took care of me at ordinary times. We didn't have that feeling for anyone before, because I knew from the beginning that he had a family and two children, but over time we had a lot of tacit understanding and gradually fell in love with each other. He loves me very much, I know.
We go to have supper together after work every day, and then he goes back to his home. When I go back to my home, I talk in this way, and then there is a relationship. But we all have to leave at dawn, because he wants to go home, I don't want to embarrass him, and I also understand him.
In this way, we work together every day to have supper and play together, but he will not stay out for the night. Maybe this way has been a long time, and I may have an imbalance in my heart. These days I always argue with him and quarrel with him. I know I should not lose my temper like this, because I knew he had a family before I was with him. What can I do!
However, the night before yesterday, he said that he was under great pressure, and it was really tiring to maintain in this way, because after work every day, we just wandered until the early morning, and then separated. Because we work in the afternoon, so we all rest in the early morning. When he said these words to me, I really felt pain and pain. I had been together for more than a year, and every day, he suddenly told me that he didn't want to continue in this way. I felt so sad. Because my world is full of him, suddenly without him, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do?
I can't sleep every day. I know that I am the most injured person because he has a family and children. I have nothing. Even after I was with him, even my friends rarely contacted him. They were all with him. He was a responsible man. He never stayed out for the night. He knew his wife would think. Maybe he felt guilty about his wife, but I didn't know how to get out. Please help me. I don't want to be so sad. I can't sleep or eat every day.
[Reply]
According to your confidences, you are a single woman, and he is a married man with a wife and children. Although you are very clear about this fact from the beginning, you still can't withstand the temptation of the deformed love network woven by time, and you can't extricate yourself from the network.
You also know that in this dangerous extramarital affair game, you are the most injured, because at the end of the walk, you have nothing but heartache. The saddest thing for a woman who is involved in extramarital affairs is that she knows that she will not have a result with the other party, but she still has to let herself fall deeper and deeper, unable to stop, and trapped in love. Like you, you said that you know that the other party loves you very much. In fact, you are wrong. Men who engage in extramarital affairs basically love themselves. Most of them cheat women in the name of love to satisfy their greed and possessiveness, or to seek stimulation, or to feel fresh. Do you think he really loves you when he says he loves you? Every day I accompany you with my original match, give you some illusory sweet words, and invite you to eat some delicious food. Is that love? That only shows that your understanding of love is too superficial.
Facts have proved that this man's "love" for you is also limited, but after more than a year, he wants to withdraw from your world. If he really loves you, he will try to give you a future, or he will not provoke you from the beginning, instead of leaving you after getting you. You even praise him as a responsible man with an appreciative tone. You say that he never sleeps outside. I can only say: silly sister paper, if he is really responsible, he will not develop extramarital affairs with your wife behind his back. As for he never sleeps outside, it does not mean that he cares about his family instinctively, but is just afraid of his own scandal being exposed by his wife. Therefore, don't deceive yourself for others. The more you praise him, the more you can't gild your face. It can only expose the hypocrisy of this man. Your appreciation of this man is extremely one-sided.
At present, the most important thing is that you should know how to look at everything in front of you very clearly and see this man clearly. You should learn to quickly withdraw from this abnormal emotional world. The longer you stay in this relationship, the deeper the injury will be,
Although it is very painful to get rid of the pain for a while, there is no way. This pain was originally caused by you. Who can blame.
In fact, you know everything, but you don't know how to restrain yourself. To this end, you also need to understand a truth, that is, those fair and aboveboard relationships may not be able to achieve good results in the end. How can this kind of illegitimate love game last? It is time to end the game. There is no feast that never ends. What's more, you can't share a picnic that you have eaten for more than a year that doesn't belong to you. You should know that it is immoral to snatch the delicious food from other people's mouths, and you will pay the price sooner or later.
