Post Date April, 15 2023
My husband's ex-girlfriend has been running through our marriage, bringing a huge shadow to my marriage. When I fell in love with my husband, I heard him mention his ex-girlfriend. They talked for two years. In fact, he said that he didn't know the reason for their breakup. The other party often ran away from home during the time together, but never came back after the last time. However, not long after our marriage, the woman actually called her husband to ask him to forgive.
My husband said to my face that he was married. Don't contact me again. But I didn't think she was still clinging. Call and send messages every three to five times. One day I really couldn't help it, so I dialed her number and asked her as my wife not to disturb our normal life in the future. Guess what she said? She arrogantly called my husband her husband, without shame. I asked her: Why didn't your husband live with you and marry with me? She said, "So what? He loves me but not you, so marriage is bullshit." Have you ever seen such a disgusting woman? There is simply no way to communicate.
Psychology affects physiology. Before I knew this, my husband and I had a very happy life and a very harmonious sex. But now I feel that I also have serious psychological problems, especially in sexual life. Every time I do something like that with my husband, I can always think of him once with that disgusting woman. I feel sick for a while. I can't have any more tenderness with him. I don't know what to do? I desperately want to forget and adjust my mind, but I still use this to stimulate myself. I can't accept my perfect husband, who has done such absurd things. This mentality has affected our normal life. What should I do?
[Reply]
Hello, first of all, everyone will inevitably have past emotional experience. You can't mess up your life or even mess up your sense of propriety because your husband has an ex-girlfriend.
Secondly, it is one thing for his ex-girlfriend to pester your husband, and it is another thing for your husband to accept her pestering. You should clarify who has problems between them. In my opinion, to effectively get rid of the entanglement of your husband's ex-girlfriend, it should not be you but your husband who should come forward to solve the problem. Because this is a historical problem left by your husband, you must give it to him to deal with. If he can't handle it well, it is his dereliction of duty. You just talk to him.
Now, because of this matter, your mentality has become a problem, even affecting your relationship between husband and wife, which is more than worth the loss. I think your husband can handle this matter well. As long as your husband makes clear his attitude and sticks to his bottom line, she will soon quit. You don't need to call her and scold her. This will only stimulate her more possessive and predatory desire. If you can't stand her constant harassment of her husband, you can suggest him to change his phone card. Isn't it very simple? Here are my suggestions and ideas for you. I hope they can help you!
