Post Date July, 14 2023
Sex is the most profound physical and mental integration between men and women, and it is the combination of spirit and flesh. This process is the best place for life to be born, and life is created by love. What we need to tell our children is that they are born out of love. Here is the gender knowledge organized by the editor for everyone. Let's take a look together!
Shame, serious professor
Shame has been found in the 10 year psychological counseling process for women that insufficient sexual knowledge during childhood can lead to negative emotions. In the past five years, more and more reports of child sexual assault have made me pay attention to child sex education. If early sex education can be provided to children, it may reduce the occurrence of many problems.
What is the content of children's sex education? It has always been a highly controversial topic, should we truly tell children the meaning of sex? Or how much can we say? Anyway, it is a very challenging topic. The content I am bringing today is what sex education for children includes.
Child sex education is about understanding the body
A child's initial understanding of the world comes from understanding their own body, such as their own hands, as well as exploring other people's bodies, such as their mother's breasts. On the one hand, this understanding allows the child to separate themselves from others. Freud explored Baobao's understanding of themselves from the pleasure parts of their body. Starting from the age of 0, the main interests of 0-1 year old babies are focused on the oral cavity. At the age of 1-3, during the anal period, Genital muscles gradually mature and consciously urinate. The reproductive organs of opposite sex parents are different from themselves, and touching the genitals produces pleasure.
Understanding the body includes understanding its functions and sensations. Infants gradually realize that their actions bring pleasure to the body and actively engage in finger movements in pursuit of pleasure.
Example: Biting behavior. When admitting to having long teeth, she likes to bite very much, but the child rarely bites herself. She knows that biting herself will hurt and biting other things won't hurt, but she doesn't know whether biting others will hurt. Judging how others feel requires others' reactions. Once, a child bit the mother, and the mother was very painful, but don't be afraid of the child, don't be afraid
Secondly, children's understanding of physiological gender differences in sexual education
For children, there is no difference in their parents' bodies compared to the tables and benches at home. However, between the ages of 1.5 and 2, children begin to realize that their parents' bodies are particularly different. When children play, they notice the differences between each other, and the boys are watching and touching each other
It is very important to educate children about physiological gender differences, which is an important part of early childhood's understanding of gender. Recognizing one's own physiological gender is the foundation for continuing social gender awareness education. When understanding physiological gender, it is important for parents to describe it, and when describing physiological gender, they need to pay attention to their own tendencies. I have encountered some girls who dislike their gender very much and find it very troublesome. They do not like their gender and want to become boys. The root cause of this is actually related to their parents' differential treatment of the physiological gender of girls when they were young. You may express your attitude between words.
There are picture books like Sage and Chicken. A girl like a boy, Saki. Does Saki have a chicken? There is a question: don't women have chickens? What are the many parts that women lack? Parents' explanations of their children's physiological gender and their own tendencies can affect their children's acceptance of their gender, resulting in corresponding emotional reactions (confidence/shame).
Sexual education for children is an understanding of gender in society
Gender is an important part of adapting to society, and it is a gender behavior recognized by a person in society, such as female gender and male gender. A woman's recognition of female gender means that her physiological gender and social gender are consistent and comparative in daily life. Men who value family, emotions, and details recognize themselves as gender. Some women are born as women, However, in daily life, gender is considered to be male, and the behavior style is more masculinization. Therefore, physiological gender and social gender do not always correspond one-to-one.
Gender roles are influenced by parents and society at birth, but are in a sensitive period between the ages of 3 and 6. During this period, children imitate the behavior of same-sex parents, with girls treating their mothers neatly, liking to dress up and be beautiful, boys treating their fathers neatly, liking to be noisy, and liking to dress up. For example, girls must wear very brightly colored clothes. For example, in red and yellow clothes, the mother believes that wearing them looks like a turkey and must make her daughter wear an elegant blue dress. As a result, the daughter cried and the mother became angry. When such conflicts occur, parents should understand that children are learning and imitating gender roles in society. Meanwhile, what should children do if they exhibit behaviors that do not conform to their gender roles? For example, we believe that girls should be quiet and boys should be noisy, but what if a girl's personality is active?
At this point, we should respect the child's personality development. When a child not only agrees with their own gender roles, but also develops the characteristics of heterosexual gender roles, that is, being neutral and adapting to society. In other words, if girls like to move, parents can let their children do physical exercises and explore the environment, which will not hinder the development of gender, but the masculinization part of the girl is unrestricted. Therefore, the issue of gender education is to respect everyone's personality and not limit children's instinctive development. Usually, without restrictions and respect, children can develop their own personality and easily gain social recognition.
Child sex education is sex safety education
An important part of children's sex education and sexual safety education. In recent years, there has been a significant increase in sexual safety education for girls, and in fact, boys should also receive attention in this regard. Sexual safety education not only includes understanding what sexual assault is, but also includes protecting one's own sexual organs and respecting the sexual rights of others. Educating children here, some people know how to do bad things to them. At this point, the child needs to loudly refuse and constantly express rejection. For example, strangers asking their children to take off their clothes, take off their pants, do bad things to them, invite them to look at others' bodies, and touch others' bodies are also bad things. They need to loudly refuse and seek help.
There are many ways to educate children about sexual safety, and parents can learn from the book 'Solving Virtue'. The main purpose of child sexual safety education is to prevent others from sexually assaulting children. In fact, sexual safety education also includes not infringing on others' bodies, such as not infringing on others' bodies. It not only includes physical inviolability, but also includes not adding nicknames indiscriminately, not making negative sexual evaluations, and not spreading information about others' sexuality (spreading rumors) at will. For example, in a movie, a child says, 'Do you know your underwear ran behind?'? Sometimes casual evaluation of others' bodies is also a part of sexual safety that should be taken into consideration, which also violates others' bodies and is not invited.
Child sex education is about complete self-education (limits, privacy)
The body is our own boundary and a very important part that sets us apart from others. The body has sovereignty, and this sovereignty belongs to me. I can independently decide whether people in my body can come into contact, and my body's privacy needs to be respected. Everyone is a complete self, which starts with respect from the body. So, children know that if they don't want adults to hold them, they will turn around and leave or cry. However, adults find it difficult to understand the child's meaning. Forcing parents to hold or pinch their faces actually violates the child's physical boundaries. Therefore, when a child grows up, the parents keep the door closed
Our physical boundaries are connected to our spiritual boundaries, and when we find it difficult to protect our physical boundaries, our spiritual boundaries are also vulnerable to infringement. It is difficult to maintain independence. For example, when a child is young, there is a lot of physical communication with their parents. At this time, the child has a lot of dependence on their parents. As the child grows older and more independent, physical contact actually begins to decrease. As the child enters the middle school stage and enters the resistance period, they begin to flaunt their independence. Physical contact with their parents becomes less and less. We respect the child's physical boundaries and also respect their privacy. Young children cannot refuse physical contact from adults, which reflects that their spiritual world is easily violated by adults. For example, when a mother is lonely and needs to embrace her child, the child cannot refuse and can feel the mother's loneliness and helplessness. The child correspondingly shows excessive compensation (obedience, helping with work, emotional maturity), and adults invade the child's psychological boundaries, allowing the child to take responsibility beyond their own abilities.
Child sex education is about understanding the origin of life
Sex is the origin of life and the movement that shapes it. But how to tell a child such a fact? What should I say about birth?
Sex is the most profound physical and mental integration between men and women, and it is the combination of spirit and flesh. This process is the best place for life to be born, and life is created by love. What we need to tell our children is that they are born out of love. Secondly, the essence of parents condenses on children. Giving life through sex is a blessing and expectation. It tells children that sex is sacred and needs to be blessed. Thirdly, sex requires the cooperation of both hearts and bodies. Love is the core part of sex, and love is the origin of life. Therefore, love is the starting point of everything. But at the same time, finally, love is a long-term responsibility. The essence of life produced by love needs us to nurture and irrigate with more love. It is a very beautiful and touching thing.
When describing the cultivation and birth of children in this way, children can feel the love of their parents, the expectation of their parents, and the beauty of the essence of life values. They can also feel that sex needs blessings. It is not random. Love is the core of sex, and it is a long-term responsibility. It makes the right choice for children's future sex and love.
