My ex boyfriend and I got to know each other because of work, and later we felt good and got together.
Simply put, after two years of being together, I became pregnant and gave birth to a child, but the child had an accident and disappeared. Later, I also broke up with him. Six months after the breakup, there were also many suitors who I didn't agree to. Later, I met a man at a friend's party, and we only added WeChat instead of chatting. About half a month after adding WeChat, we started chatting. After chatting for a few days, he may have feelings for me, but I didn't call him very much.
He was very kind to me, but later I thought he was good and wanted to give it a try, but I didn't say anything. When we went out, he held my hand and I didn't resist. We only held my hand and didn't do anything else. He also took me to his store and met his brother and sister-in-law, as well as his family. They had a good impression of me. Later on, he learned about my past and after I had a child, he said he couldn't accept it and wouldn't talk to me anymore. But I already fell in love with him, what should I do?
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I really don't know what to say to you about your situation. First of all, I would like to appeal to those girls who are about to or are already in love, please be more self disciplined! Only by loving oneself can one gain self-esteem, and only by knowing how to protect oneself can one avoid being hurt in the future. My overall principle for young people's romantic relationships is: if you can kiss, don't go to bed; If you can go to bed, don't get pregnant. If you can get pregnant, don't give birth. In short, if you can have a good relationship, try not to have one. In fact, young people nowadays generally have lower standards for themselves in love. In such a big environment, most people tend to follow the trend and become accustomed to it. However, at least the bottom line should be established, otherwise they will underestimate themselves.
As far as you are concerned, because you were too casual in the previous relationship, got pregnant and gave birth casually, then broke up casually, and even wanted to win back the love of others for you, you may not care about yourself, but it does not mean that others do not care about your past. For this reason, it is normal that your current boyfriend cannot accept your past. In fact, it is not that he cannot accept your past, but that he cannot accept you without his own bottom line. All of this is caused by your own improper behavior in the beginning, and you can only regret it on your own.
Of course, if you deeply love this boyfriend, you can strive for it, don't give up easily, and use your actual actions to prove your infinite attachment to him. At the same time, using your actual actions to demonstrate that although you have an unbearable past, it doesn't prevent you from being an excellent woman. But you must understand that no matter how hard you try to win, if the other party just can't break the knot and accept the reality, then you can only reluctantly choose to accept and face it, instead of begging for mercy, because love requires two people to achieve it together. If you really can't get it, respect the other party's choice.