What if a bully wife beats and scolds her mother-in-law and always quarrels with her husband to divorce

My wife and I have been married for three years. We have a child. We are almost two years old. We have good feelings when we are in love and when we are married for one year. We also have great respect for our parents. That is, her temper changes when we are pregnant. I can accept her bad temper when we are pregnant. But her disrespect for my parents makes it difficult for me to accept it. I also talked with her, and it has some effect!

My child was born prematurely and stayed in the hospital for a year. For the sake of the child, I have a lot of foreign debts. My family is rural, and I was not rich, but now I can barely maintain it! At the beginning, I thought that my parents didn't bring the children. I also said that my mother came. At that time, the conflict had already started. My parents were people with their faces facing the earth and their backs facing the sky. They didn't speak much, so she was angry. At the beginning, I just said a few words casually, but then it was endless. After my mother came, she couldn't do anything in her heart, even to the extent of beating and scolding. Once, I scolded in front of my face at home. I said a few words to her and then quarreled, saying that I preferred my mother to bully her together. Usually I don't get angry, but as long as I heard her scold my parents, I can't stand it. This is also my principle and bottom line!

Once my mother was here, because I had to work late. At about nine o'clock in the evening, my father called me and asked me to take my mother home. I thought something must have happened again, so I hurried back. Before I got home, my aunt called me and said that my mother was at her house. After I went there, my mother was crying there, and my aunt was wiping tears. I asked what was the matter? My mother didn't tell me, but my aunt told me that my wife hit my mother. I saw half of my mother's face blushed, and the fire came up at that time. I had to ask her what she wanted to do. My aunt and my mother held me back and advised me for a long time. But when I saw my mother like that, I couldn't tell how I felt. I sent my mother back that night. After returning, what my father said really made me feel ashamed. I rushed back all night. When I got home, she actually asked where my mother died. I really wanted to beat her, but I could not bear to see the child sleeping.

I want to have a good chat with her. As soon as I say that she is doing wrong, she will say that I am biased towards my parents, and how our family is sorry for her and how to hurt her. I often advise her children to look at it by ourselves, and why not see her face angry. Let's have a good life? But she can't listen at all. So far, every time she quarrels, she will divorce me. Every time she quarrels, I don't know what she thinks. I'm very nervous now.

The night before yesterday, she said that she wanted to talk to me. I said yes. As soon as she opened her mouth, I understood. I said less. It was you who said too much. Besides, she didn't see me again now. She then quarreled with me. Now it's endless. She said that she was determined to divorce me this time. She scratched me all over. I pressed her and she said I hit her. I really can't stand it. I'm really going to let her go crazy, I want to divorce, but I can't bear to think of my children.

reply:

Hello, your wife is like this. On the one hand, she may have postpartum anxiety after giving birth to a child, and she is not healthy psychologically; On the other hand, it may be dissatisfaction with the current situation of life, including dissatisfaction with you, and then take it out on your parents. The embarrassment of life, the noise of children, and the dissatisfaction with the current situation, make her always start to vent in a vexatious way.

In any case, your wife doesn't respect the elderly, doesn't respect your parents, and even beats the elderly. This is a matter of character and moral quality, which can't be ambiguous. Maybe, people will change. Your wife has become what she is today. Maybe it was because she pretended well and didn't completely reveal her nature. Now you can see her face by removing her real veil. Her performance is that she is dissatisfied with you and her family. If she wants to find an excuse to divorce you, you can't stop her.

I think you lack a bit of masculinity. You can't lose your basic dignity and bottom line in marriage. You are aware of it, but I hope you can do it at the same time. Don't be led by your own woman. If she talks about divorce over and over again and always works against her mother, don't get used to her, but give her some color to see.

Of course, children can't be ignored, but the elderly can't be aggrieved, and marriage can't be free of rights and wrongs. If your husband and wife have no major problems, mainly in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then try not to let mother-in-law and daughter-in-law together in the future. It's really not possible to hire a nanny. You can make more money as a man.

In short, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law needs you to adjust strategically and play the role of a bridge. If the contradiction can't be reconciled, then I hope you can choose your mother first. It is important to protect your mother. Next is marriage. As a man, you can't let your mother be bullied. After all, there is only one mother, and you can find a daughter-in-law again. As for the children, it is the responsibility of the husband and wife to make a decision according to the actual situation. In the end, we can only make the decision of choosing the lesser of the two evils, depending on which one pays the lesser price.