Post Date April, 15 2023
What expectations do men have for the woman they love? Body shape, appearance, ability, family background, and personality may all be possible, but a sincere intimate relationship begins when the man feels that the woman truly loves him.
The meaning of 'truly loving a man' is to avoid criticizing his motivation to love you; Avoid placing him in the gender category - for example, being picky about men always doing this, men always doing that; Understand his abilities and avoid asking him to give more than he can; And to avoid unfairly shifting responsibility onto him when there are problems in the relationship.
After chatting with hundreds of men about their ideal intimate relationships, the following 'men's manifesto' was collected:
When I mention that she makes me feel stressed, she can readily accept it without accusing me of nitpicking or not loving her. I hope she can bring our relationship closer according to the methods we discussed
She can admit that she also has a selfish side. I am not the only person who is self-centered, and her own efforts in love are limited. Sometimes she only uses me to meet her requirements. In addition, I do not want her subconscious to hide some stereotypes and negative feelings about men
She knows that communication should be two-way. When we argue and can calmly discuss the reasons, I hope she knows that my intense reaction is partially influenced by her. I don't want to be referred to as the "problematic party" or "not knowing how to love someone"
She loves the true me, not the perfect me in her fantasies. I don't want to just satisfy her romantic fantasies because I know that reality is not like this, and the result may make her even more disappointed
She will not sacrifice anything else around her for me or our relationship; because doing so will make me feel compelled to give more than I am willing to give. In other words, I hope the woman I love can understand that when I give less than she expects, it may not be my fault
She can allow me to have my own opinions and won't force me to change them because she thinks my opinions are inappropriate
When encountering problems, she can fight side by side with me; when we have disputes, she can see it as a communication method to bring each other closer, rather than thinking that I am asking questions to find trouble
She will not excessively demand that I exceed her own abilities to make her happy. I also do not want her to change herself to cater to me, and I hope that I am responsible for her sacrifice, She doesn't just tell me that she has any dissatisfaction with our relationship, but rather proposes some ways to improve it. I don't want to constantly guess her thoughts. Is she unhappy now? When a problem arises, being told that it exists is not enough; I even hope she solves it together with me
I may be someone who is more self centered, but I don't want my motives to be misunderstood, and I don't want to be seen as not valuing this relationship when I do something wrong
She can give me what I want; not what she wants me to get
She won't overestimate or underestimate me too much. I'm just an ordinary person - with both strengths and weaknesses, and like her, I also have a fragile side
