Post Date May, 16 2023
The penis can be too large, which is a relatively common misconception.
As a professional, I can assure you that it is generally not too big.
Every now and then, a female friend comes to me and asks if the penis of a man who may become her new partner is too big. One of the benefits of making friends with obstetricians and gynecology is that you can ask anything and get reliable answers.
I remind them that after hundreds of thousands of years of evolution, the vagina has been able to adapt perfectly to stretching and retraction. If they are interested and this gentleman is a safe choice from a moral and medical perspective, then use lubricant and enjoy it to the fullest. If you feel pain, please stop immediately and call me - not immediately, but the next day.
I often hear people I hardly know mention about penis size. Once, I had dinner with someone who later became my ex husband and some people I had never seen before. At the right moment, a woman turned to me with a mouth full of spaghetti and said, "We can't have sex. His penis is too big
This is the kind of quiet moment where everything seems to be at a standstill because I am almost certain that this man is not at the level to find a job in the pornographic industry. If both of them are willing to believe that it is indeed too big, that's great. But the fact is, their problem may not be in size; It is more likely due to a medical problem called 'difficulty in sexual intercourse'.
Do you think he's hitting a wall? "I asked.
They both looked at me as if I were a psychic wizard. I am not. Women who feel their vagina is too tight or too small and experience pain during tampons and sexual intercourse almost always have a problem called vaginal spasms. This means that the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina are improperly tightened. Usually, these muscles relax under sexual stimulation and then contract rhythmically during orgasm. When they are too tense, they may cause pain during sexual intercourse, which is a health issue and can even lead to painful or difficult orgasms. Sometimes the pain becomes more intense after sexual activity.
This woman I met by chance is no different from many patients I have seen in the past 25 years. She has raised her issue of sexual intercourse pain with many medical staff, but not only has she not provided any treatment, she has not even been diagnosed. The most advanced modern medicine has left her with an internet myth - and not even a vaginal myth, but a penis myth! This makes me furious.
Sexual pain is very common; Almost 75% of women have experienced it. For many people, this is a temporary and occasional pain, caused by insufficient foreplay, breastfeeding (which lowers estrogen levels), infection, and other factors.
Approximately 7% to 22% of women experience more persistent pain, with 45% of menopausal women and 60% of cancer survivors claiming to have sexual intercourse pain. Pain during sexual intercourse and migraines are as common as low back pain, but this type of pain is seriously overlooked and rarely discussed. In the index of the scientific literature search engine PubMed, there are only 3694 articles on sexual discomfort, while there are 19796 articles on male erectile dysfunction.
Muscle spasms (which is the judgment I gave at that dinner) are one of the most common diagnostic conclusions, while other common causes include neuralgia, skin problems, low estrogen levels, and endometriosis. Psychological factors also have an impact, but it doesn't mean it's a problem in your mind. This has never been the case.
If women feel pain during sexual intercourse, they will have expectations of pain, which increases their response to pain and reduces lubrication and sexual desire. If I give you the best chocolate in the world, but every time you take the first bite, I hit you with a hammer, you will quickly become accustomed to fear and fear of chocolate. You may also recoil when you smell the smell of chocolate, and even feel scared as soon as I enter the room. You will completely lose your appetite for chocolate. For some women, sexual trauma may also be a factor and trigger a cycle of pain.
Obtaining facts and overcoming medical fallacies is already difficult, but there are more dimensions to the issues related to sex. Most people do not receive sufficient sex education, and many do not understand how to talk about sex. When I ask a woman if she has ever discussed her pain or sexual needs with her partner, I often hear the other person answer, 'I can't.' Many doctors are unwilling to discuss sexual issues, which only complicates the problem.
There are other solutions:
Solve the problem of sexuality itself. The treatment of sexual pain requires addressing physical issues, ensuring the use of appropriate techniques, discussing emotional responses, and of course, examining the relationship between the two parties. If you are very unhappy, you may not be able to obtain the kind of sexual stimulation you need, or you may not be able to generate enough sexual responses. No medication can change your dislike of your sexual partner.
Lubricants can help many women alleviate sexual pain, but it doesn't necessarily mean you have any problems. Another misconception I often break is that women must be able to wet their vagina through some sexual fantasy. Many women have told me that lubricants can help alleviate their pain, but their male partners do not like them or accuse them of using lubricants. My friends, this idea is too bad. If you need to wear glasses, no one will look down on you. Some people always need to wear glasses; Some of us also need to wear glasses as we age. As long as you can see clearly, who cares if you wear glasses?
Foreplay is a part of the sexual response cycle, but everyone's needs or desires for foreplay vary greatly. At that dinner, the man quickly pointed out that their foreplay was "long enough". I stared at my plate to avoid revealing professional glances. That's why I always ask women to consult without a sexual partner first. Although foreplay itself rarely cures sexual pain, most people actually want more foreplay than they get, so doubling the duration of foreplay is important sexual hygiene knowledge, and most importantly, it is very interesting.
Find a good doctor. Many women who find suitable doctors can cure the pain of sexual intercourse. In addition to doctors and physical therapists, sex therapists and psychological counselors may also be helpful. For some women, treatment may be challenging as they may not be able to find a suitable therapist and a few may have symptoms that are difficult to treat. Some treatments are expensive, while others do not align with the patient's self-awareness. Some women have experienced sexual trauma but have never mentioned it to anyone, or the trauma is too painful to speak of, but treatment can be very helpful.
Treating sexual intercourse pain is very worthwhile. It is the only disease I treat where patients giggle during follow-up visits. I didn't know I would feel so good before! "- I often hear this reaction. Even if the pain cannot be completely relieved, receiving a diagnosis can produce incredible results, and many women tell me that being taken seriously is very helpful.
Women with painful sexual intercourse are not incurable. She only encountered some medical problems, which is not uncommon.
