Post Date April, 15 2023
The main reason why couples live together is to live with beauty until old age, but this long marriage road is full of thorns, many of which are caused by "internal causes". The root of the internal cause lies in the couple themselves.
Limit the other party to make friends
Most couples have different personalities and different ways of doing things. There will be inward and outward collision. For example, his wife is open and frank and good at making friends; The husband is introverted and arrogant, and does not like to negotiate too much with others. In this way, contradictions and frictions will occur sooner or later.
The introverted feel that the cheerful person's behavior is "excessive", easy to get into trouble, or cause cheating and other things that are detrimental to the marriage. So they imposed restrictions on each other's behavior to safeguard their own dignity and family harmony. However, this practice does not achieve the desired effect, but will destroy the feelings of the couple and even destroy the marriage.
Marriage is not a shackle. It requires mutual tolerance and understanding between husband and wife. It cannot be based on personal consciousness. Limiting the other party's behavior of making friends is like house arrest of the lover's freedom, and the marriage life like prison is not happy, and will gradually go to ruin.>> Things that hurt the feelings of husband and wife
Status difference
The life of husband and wife needs to be treated equally, but the social status of both parties is not determined by this. Many couples have "strong men and weak women" or "strong women and weak men". Perhaps in their life, the difference in social status will not directly affect their feelings, but the gossip of outsiders or the work attitude of one party into the family can easily cause emotional discord.
If the social status of the husband and wife is different, and they don't pay attention to their own words and deeds, they can't properly deal with the slander of the outside world. The harmonious relationship between husband and wife will still be affected.
Accuse and complain each other
Mutual understanding and tolerance are very important for couples. If you can't understand each other and often criticize each other, then marriage can't maintain harmony. Because accusation will cause the other party's bad feelings, the husband or wife will despise the other party, laugh at the other party, and shift the responsibility for some things to the other party, which will certainly cause the partner to taunt and become angry, thus causing emotional breakdown.
Therefore, in order to ensure the happiness and harmony of the family, we must be tolerant, considerate and tolerant of each other. Only in this way can we reduce the friction of conflicts and avoid emotional frustration.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
