Only by being sincere and sincere can we make our hearts feel guilty and peaceful. A person's integrity can bring spiritual happiness to them, on the contrary, a person who does not maintain integrity can also cause others to suffer greatly.
The integrity in society is the same, and so is the integrity in families. In a family, the bond that couples maintain is mutual trust and loyalty. However, in many family conflicts, the term "integrity" has become the initiator of negative effects, where its meaning is defined as the trigger for marriage breakdown.
32 year old Zhang Qing is a typical housewife, and her husband Li Fan was promoted to the company's operations director two years ago. In two years, Li Fan, who had always been honest and honest, seemed to have changed a person in front of his wife. After becoming the director, he often went to leisure and entertainment venues with partners from other companies for the sake of his business. For the sake of the company and family, Li Fan, knowing his wife's personality, began to tell white lies to her. Talking about drinking as a meeting and nightclubs as a business... Although Li Fan did not do those outrageous things, his wife still became suspicious. The matter gradually became more complex, with one side covering it up and the other doubting it. The result of a vicious cycle was, 'It's okay, it's okay, it's okay, we're gone.'
After the divorce, their friend asked him why he lied. Li Fan smiled bitterly and said, "I always hang out in those places, afraid of my wife and suspicion!" Then asked Zhang Qing why she suspected, and she said sadly, "This kind of person is too reassuring. He spends his days outside indulging in alcohol and drink. How can I trust him
In the above cases, the failure of their marriage was not caused by either party's mistakes or defects, but by problems between them. They have never established an honest and trustworthy relationship with each other, and the husband's biggest mistake was being dishonest with his wife and trying to cover it up; As a wife, if you have a little more understanding of your husband and a little more confidence in your love, you won't let unnecessary problems lead to the end of your marriage.
"Marriage is valuable, and integrity cannot be discarded." There is more than just a marriage agreement between husband and wife. The marriage certificate is not the guarantee of both parties' integrity. The real guarantee of integrity comes from the sincerity of both parties' hearts. Many of the 'distrust' that comes after losing sincerity is due to a barrier created by poor communication; Many are also caused by the misplaced mentality of the parties involved, and their so-called "suspicion" is just an imagination.
In short, no matter what the reason is, as long as there is a lack of integrity, there will be "suspicion" of existence, and the life between couples will not be harmonious and happy. So, it is recommended that those who are still in this confusion: "Give others space, and also give oneself freedom; give others sincerity, and give oneself justice
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)