Summarize and uncover the reasons for extramarital relationships
People who have extramarital affairs cannot escape three reasons: emotional need, sexual desire, and pursuit of benefits. Of course, these are the three internal motivations, which may also be mixed with each other, and on the surface, they may express emotional needs, but the real motivations are the other two. Due to extramarital affairs, often disguised as love, in terms of externalization, it often presents the demands of lovers for emotional purity, the pursuit of a new marriage, or the demands for the other party's efforts.
1、 If you are sincere to me, I can do anything for you!
This sentence has several meanings when spoken from the lover's mouth. One is that you are not sincere enough towards me, and I am not satisfied with what you have put in. Secondly, your request for my emotions is unreasonable because you are not sincere. Thirdly, the premise for me to give is that you must truly give. But usually some lovers, hearing this statement from the other party, will consider it as a commitment to him. Only if they are sincere, the other party will also give themselves sincerely, and even marry him after divorce. Finally, it was discovered that this sentence is both progressive and regressive. I demand that you give more, and then at critical moments, I use this to deceive you: because you don't have full sincerity, then don't blame me for retreating. The ambiguity and confusion of the lover when saying this sentence, in stark contrast to the cold ending, can make people feel that extramarital affairs are like sharp swords that hurt others.
2、 Between lovers, we should talk about emotions, money is nothing!
There is a particularly interesting phenomenon, and there is a rule that someone tells you when something happens. It's not a matter of money, but nine out of ten, it's a matter of money. Drawing inferences from one example, lovers talk to you about emotional issues, not money issues. Often, it doesn't mean that one needs to give more emotions to you and not be stingy with money in front of you. The other party's intention is likely to make you express emotions towards her, and when spending money on her, treat it like dirt. Those who truly care about emotions and money will never use words like this to enlighten you, but rather do something less or not to say. Women deceive men into being infatuated, and men often prioritize love, making them generous with money and even willing to embezzle to pay for this debt. Of course, there won't be any good fruit to eat in the end. Excuse me: Money is not really something, but fate is really something!
3、 I didn't expect you to be too selfish, it really disappointed me!
People who blame the other party for being selfish are often dissatisfied with their own selfish intentions. Between lovers, the questioning of selfishness and anti selfishness is often carried out by selfishness. And true emotional lovers often consider giving as happiness and think more about each other, which is common in happy marriages. In the world of extramarital affairs, it is difficult to achieve. Because extramarital affairs often lead to psychological barriers and do not consider the lover as a true lifelong reliance, there will be more trade-offs in terms of giving. In addition, the impure emotions make the effort even more limited. If it is not for pleasing the other party, or based on the principle of taking first and giving first, there are not many lovers who selflessly contribute in extramarital affairs. Limited effort is often the key to conflicts between lovers. Because lovers sometimes come for profit, which exacerbates the balance between giving and receiving. This kind of gain or loss is often linked to the presence or absence of emotions, which makes extramarital love a bait for fishing and makes it a shameful behavior.
4、 I gave you everything, isn't that enough?
The anger in the world of extramarital affairs is a common behavior. For example, in the case of jealousy, even if one does not truly love the other person, they often become jealous when they show intimacy towards other members of the opposite sex. Why? One reason is that extramarital relationships are inherently a form of infidelity and are extremely sensitive to further infidelity. The second reason is that due to possessiveness, one feels that their privileges have been encroached upon, leading to anger. In extramarital affairs, the one who does not truly love and does not really want to marry the other party often does not express themselves directly, saying I love you or promising to marry someone else. On the one hand, they are afraid that such promises and confessions will make them have no way out, and when they speak the truth, they are afraid that the conflict will escalate and bring negative consequences to themselves. So, often taking the middle path and using ambiguous or substitute language can create misunderstandings and achieve psychological balance in the other party. Through communicating with many consultants, I have found that many people who have been deceived attribute the reason for their final breakup to some objective reason. In fact, this is the effect caused by the cunning of the lover. At critical moments, do not let the conversation fall, do not exacerbate conflicts, and then find opportunities to leave you speechless, preferring to automatically withdraw.
5、 I really want to fly away with you and enjoy romance in a deserted place!
At the beginning of an extramarital affair, this sentence can easily capture the other person's heart. When the relationship between lovers reaches a certain level, saying this sentence often allows them to experience warmth and romance. But there is a hint of a special meaning hidden in this sentence. That is to say, our emotions actually have no way out. If we want to stay together for a long time or truly get together, it is just a romantic idea that is unrealistic. Because lovers seek survival in the darkness and crevices, and in the bright world, they have no place to stand, afraid of the cruelty of reality, which gives them this overly romantic longing and realization. If rational people are not tempted by extramarital affairs, only those who are restless and irrational will fall into extramarital affairs and eventually return to normal life with wounds, or stay in pain, or never return to the destructive reality.