My story is very long, I don't know where to start. "I once had a failed marriage because my girlfriend cheated, and my confusion came from my current girlfriend.". What I want to explain is that my failed marriage has nothing to do with my current girlfriend, because I divorced three years ago and just met her for two years. During these two years, my girlfriend has done a lot and paid a lot for me. After establishing the relationship, her girlfriend confessed to me about her past. She has had three extramarital affairs, all of which are colleagues. I can say with a clear conscience that I really don't care about her past, because I really love her, love her very much.
Due to the influence of my previous marriage, I have become very selfish and sensitive to feelings, especially the relationship between my girlfriend and her male colleagues. Some time ago, I accidentally discovered that my girlfriend was managing the QQ farm for her male colleague, with a main number and a small number, for 36 days. I also found that her male colleague did not play this game, and it was entirely my girlfriend's wishful thinking to manage the QQ farm for him. After I found out, my girlfriend explained that she was embarrassed to refuse the request of her colleague, and I couldn't get over this knot in my heart, Is it because I'm too sensitive, overly suspicious, or something strange? I really love her. What should I do?
reply:
1. To love someone, you must accept all of them. In other words, don't be suspicious, otherwise it's not love. You swear that you love your current girlfriend very much, but do you love her more or suspect her more? This is the best thing you know in your heart.
2. "You have already had a failed marriage, and the reason for the failure of the marriage is that the woman cheated. So in the face of such a woman with three extramarital affairs, do you really have the confidence to enter the marriage with her?"? Your entanglements and concerns have already been answered. Of course, we cannot say that a woman who has had three extramarital affairs is no longer a good woman. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes, but as long as she can recover after several falls, it's nothing.
3. The key to the problem is that if you are afraid of one person's repeated mistakes, it may be impossible for anyone to guarantee whether the girlfriend you love is completely no longer involved in extramarital affairs. If you don't have the bottom of your heart, and if you feel panicky and confused about the "slightest disturbance" between her and her male colleague, is it a bit of asking for trouble to develop this relationship? Isn't it about letting yourself suffer?
4. For emotions, we need to love happily and share freely. "You have already learned a lesson from past experiences. You should treat relationships and marriage more maturely, and choose more carefully. Never marry for the sake of marriage. The purpose of keeping your eyes open before marriage is to make sure that the other person is your dish. If you don't let go as soon as possible, you should move forward without hesitation if it's a sacrifice.".
5. Finally, I would like to tell you that it is normal for you to be sensitive to this girlfriend's every move because you have suffered emotional injury. In this case, if you want to avoid injury, then choosing to be single may be the best option, but will you be willing to do so?