Everyone has the experience of blind dates, whether it's arrangements from parents or introductions from colleagues, whether it's dealing with them or showing pride, unmarried women must have had the experience of blind dates. If everyone wants to go on a blind date, it is important to first understand the tricks of the blind date. Women usually prepare their way out before the blind date, with half of the women choosing to have their friends contact them by phone at the agreed time, while the other half will figure out the reasons for leaving in advance. Only in this way can we have a successful blind date.
Before blind date
Be prepared to retreat, safety first
At 11 noon on November 10th, 28-year-old Liu Lijun walked into a restaurant on Nanjing Road. This was her sixth blind date, unlike previous blind dates, which had no family members involved throughout the entire process. The blind date was reached out to her through social media. Although Ms. Liu was not in a hurry when it comes to finding a partner, under the urging of her family and the stimulation of her sweet life with friends and colleagues, she gradually felt that she had become a complete leftover girl, and several blind dates made her confident in the process.
Seeing a bouquet of pink daisies placed on the dining table near the corner, Ms. Liu sat down, which was the secret sign she had arranged for her blind date to meet. A minute later, two more couples walked into the restaurant and sat down at a nearby round table. They were Ms. Liu's childhood playmates and also her "think tank" and "bodyguard" for this blind date. But less than 10 minutes later, Ms. Liu smiled and took the opportunity to leave. It seems that the more blind dates you have, the more picky you become. Today this is really not my dish, so I made up a reason and left. I will text him in a few hours to explain clearly. At most, I can only be friends, "she said.
Marriage experts remind women to consider safety issues before a blind date. It is best to choose a blind date location in a public place, as it may appear to be a separate appointment. In fact, there may be relatives or close friends nearby who secretly observe. In case of any situation, please leave as soon as possible.
On blind dates
Be cautious when traveling with companions
Although the blind date was not successful, it was a wise choice for Ms. Liu to lead a "think tank" as a staff member. A survey shows that nearly 30% of women bring their companions or intimate friends to a blind date, and the younger the age, the higher the likelihood of girls bringing their companions or intimate friends. And nearly 80% of men say that if they develop a favorable impression of their blind date's partner, they will find ways to take action and seek the contact information of their blind date's partner. Girls must be careful when taking their partners to a blind date, otherwise they are likely to become supporting role from the leading role.
However, the short communication time between Ms. Liu and her blind date in just a few minutes was seen by emotional experts as a serious mistake. Gong Haiyan suggests that the inner things of men can only be discovered layer by layer after a long period of contact. Therefore, she hopes that women should not "turn around and leave" during blind dates to improve their success rate.
Don't just ask the other party about their income
A survey shows that women exhibit a high thirst for knowledge about men's income level and property situation, while men are not very willing to answer such questions. A physical education teacher from a high school in Qingdao who participated in the survey, Teacher Xue, told reporters: "If a man is shy of money, he is definitely embarrassed to say it. If he has money, when he meets a woman who asks such obvious questions, he always feels like he is asking for money and the purpose is not pure. Therefore, it is best not to ask for the first time
After a blind date
Learn to refuse at critical moments
For women, the end of a first date is usually a critical moment in determining whether the relationship will continue. Emotional experts say that the most important thing for women at this time is to hold onto the right balance. Men usually kindly request to send girls home, and even some men invite women to visit their homes. At this time, it is important to learn to refuse because smooth sailing can make men feel less challenging. A survey shows that less than 10% of women actively contact men after a blind date, with women born in the 1970s appearing impatient and those born in the 1980s relatively reserved.
Among the 40000 single men and women surveyed, there were 703 single men and women from Qingdao. Only 10 of them stated that the blind date was for the purpose of dating, while the remaining 693 stated that the blind date was for the purpose of getting married. On a national scale, only 1.2% of women make blind dates solely for the purpose of dating, while 2.4% of men do. Although the proportion is not significant, the number is indeed twice that of women.
Emotional experts have recommended several relatively safe topics to women: What do your parents do? Introduce your family members? What kind of life do you want to live? Where did you attend university? What is your career development plan? The two weeks after a blind date are known as the "Golden Fourteen Days". During these two weeks, after both men and women understand and communicate with each other, it is usually possible to determine the purpose of the blind date. Only when both parties communicate for the same goal of "growing old together", "emotional warming" is necessary.