Sexual Health
My husband is busy with work, has limited sexual activity, and has premature ejaculation. I suppress insomnia, what should I do? I feel like I can hardly survive anymore
It's been a sleepless night again, very annoying. My husband is always busy, and there's one thing I can't talk about. He may be too tired, has less sex, and ejaculates quickly. Many times, he's been busy with work until 12 o'clock, so late he has to go to bed, but I can't sleep, and I don't have any desire for him. It feels like he's like a work machine because it often doesn't happen for several days. He's prone to premature ejaculation three or five times a month, which makes me even more depressed, I sometimes feel oppressed and insomnia annoyed! I am only 30, he is 32 years old, and we have children. They are almost 5 years old, and the children are cute. We bought a house together in Shenzhen. My own work is easy and free, and my income is decent. In the eyes of outsiders, I should be very happy and happy, but sometimes I feel so empty and lonely, and I am about to collapse! Whenever I feel lonely and have a mental infidelity, I don't dare to cheat. I feel that my husband is working so hard to cheat, which makes me feel sorry for him. However, I am really annoyed and have insomnia. I feel like I can't live anymore, and I often suffer from insomnia···
I sometimes wonder if it's because I've been thinking too much, or if he's having a problem.
I woke up at 8 o'clock this morning and almost couldn't sleep for 2 hours at night. I got up at 8 o'clock and was late to send my baby to school. I was annoyed all night and didn't sleep well. When I saw my husband and children in the morning, I wanted to get angry and spoke to them in a bad tone. Last night, my husband took a pillow and quilt to sleep in another room. I just casually asked: What's the matter with you, you went to sleep in the next room again? Hey, he always thinks that my insomnia is due to his bad mentality, not adjusting well, and not thinking about it all being his fault. Sometimes I can't sleep at night and scream hysterically at him, complaining about him causing me insomnia. I've never had insomnia before... I resent him for marrying me and not knowing how to love me well! My youth was wasted and exhausted by him like this···
Our advice is not to be too hasty, we should give him a process and also give ourselves a process. Men work hard for their families, especially the so-called white-collar class nowadays, which is actually very stressful. According to your husband's situation, he is busy until 12:00 every day and his body is definitely in a sub healthy state. What he needs most at this time is to be quiet. Please be a little considerate of him. Is he busy for a while or will he be busy all the time? If you are busy for a period of time, find something to distract yourself, make something delicious for him, and replenish your body.
His sub healthy state will have an impact on all aspects of the body, including in bed. I can understand your husband's state. You can go out and hang out when he's not very busy with work, and take some time off on the weekend. It's best not to take care of the children, so that the two have some independent space and relax, which will be much better. Help him set a rest reminder time on his phone (this must be done with his permission. Firstly, fully respect him, and secondly, it is often difficult to communicate well, making decisions without authorization can easily lead to self sabotage). After a busy period, it is necessary to relax. This is beneficial for the body and the relationship between your husband and wife. Don't worry, it's best not to lose your temper with him. At this moment, he may feel even more upset than you!
After both of you have stabilized your emotions, find a time to have a good discussion. Premature ejaculation usually occurs either psychologically or physically. Don't rush to draw a conclusion and observe for a period of time. Based on the current situation, most of your body has been overdrawn due to work. At this time, men need to adjust and relax. Money can never be earned, but if your body collapses, there is nothing left. If the condition does not improve after a period of conditioning, it is best to go to the hospital for a prostate ultrasound examination.
80% of premature ejaculation is caused by prostate disease. Another 20% are caused by psychological or other reasons. Because the prostate gland is a large accessory gland of the male body, it is the gate that controls male ejaculation. Normal glandular nerves are sensitive and follow the instructions of the brain to turn them on and off. Good elasticity, close tightly, open easily, and control the discharge gate very sensitively.
When inflammation occurs in the gland, the flexible and elastic prostate becomes stiff and hardened. The blood vessels and nerves inside the gland are damaged to varying degrees, and the elasticity of the gland disappears. It does not follow the command of the brain and the switch is not tight. This is when the "gate" fails to control ejaculation, leading to premature ejaculation, and in severe cases, impotence.