Whether it's love or marriage, the test of long-distance relationships is often greater for both parties. Especially marriage, which involves various practical problems, can easily lead to crises if not handled properly. The probability of extramarital affairs and divorce caused by the separation of spouses is much higher than that of cohabiting couples. This is because separation is more likely to lead to trust crises and emotional alienation, but these do not necessarily mean that long-term separation between two places will lead to marriage breakdown. As long as one manages well, one can still have a happy marriage life.
On the one hand, it is necessary to give the other party an absolute sense of security.
Due to separation, both parties are unable to keep track of each other's movements in a timely manner, which can easily lead to suspicion and misunderstanding. So lack of security has become the main culprit in the marital crisis. So how do you give the other party a sense of security?
Firstly, strengthen communication.
Communication helps you maintain understanding and reduces the possibility of barriers. Usually, you can share interesting things about your work and life with others, so that they can have a general understanding of your daily life even when they are not around you, and not be too unfamiliar with your life. If you keep 'too lazy to say', you don't know where to start when you finally want to speak up.
Secondly, be more concerned.
Due to practical limitations, separated couples cannot appear in the first place when the other party needs them. Therefore, they should pay more attention to each other and let each other feel cared for and loved through some details.
Thirdly, refuse to deceive.
Concealing is the beginning of a relationship breakdown, especially for separated couples. Honesty is very, very important, and never lie because you are unwilling to make the other person worry about work or socializing. Because lying can have even more serious consequences. From the initial suspicion to the end of no longer trusting, it is actually a gradual accumulation of ordinary experiences. In fact, it's better to be honest and inform the other party about your itinerary than to conceal it. Clarify whether it's due to work or other reasons, and the other party will understand. On the contrary, if it is concealed, it can actually lead to misunderstandings. So, be honest with your lover and don't let them become suspicious and stop believing in you in the end. In short, to give the other party enough security, it is necessary to learn to express love and care in a timely manner, and be frank and open.
On the other hand, seize every opportunity to meet.
Long term separation between two places naturally leads to less intimacy than cohabiting couples. So we should seize opportunities such as holidays and meet more to preserve our love. If two people are far apart, they can schedule a relaxing and leisure trip in the middle when both parties have holidays. If only one person is on vacation, you can go to the other person's city. Don't be afraid of the hard journey and not spending too much time together before giving up. The more you do this, the more you can show that you miss and care for the other person. Maintaining a certain frequency of meetings and occasionally surprising each other will be beneficial for your marriage. If you love someone, go see them. It's okay to travel mountains and rivers.
When you have to choose to live apart for a long time due to unavoidable practical reasons, it is destined that the two of you will need to pay more than ordinary people in managing your marriage life. But as long as you have a firm decision and are willing to work hard, exotic places can also become sweet. Don't worry about how many people are separated due to different places, that doesn't mean anything. It's not unreasonable for people to make things happen, so manage a long-distance marriage well, and use sincerity and love to make distance no longer a problem.