I am a sophomore in college, 22 years old this year. I made a boyfriend of mine, who is 23 years old and belongs to our school. A while ago, we went out to play and because we didn't have enough money with us, our boyfriend and I shared the same room. Later, when we shared a bed, he forced me to have sex with him. My first time was ruthlessly taken away by him.
Originally, I didn't bring enough money and didn't want to go out with him. He said he had nothing to spend on me, and I said I'm sorry. I don't want to spend your money, and I don't want to owe anyone else. I said there's no pie falling from the sky for nothing, and he said that you don't mind who we are with. If you mind too much, I'll feel very uncomfortable.
That day, when he came to my bed, I pushed him and he refused. Later on, he passed by, but when he was sleeping at night, he crawled over and forcibly had sex with me. I struggled but he compromised.
Because it's the first time we've met and gone out to play together, I feel like I can't accept my boyfriend's behavior. He's doing it incredibly. Afterwards, he told me that he would be good to me and responsible for me, making me feel at ease. After coming back, he played games every day and didn't pay much attention to me. I took the initiative to call him and said that I had no menstruation. He said there was nothing to be afraid of, and if he got pregnant, he could go to the hospital and have it done.
I said I was very scared, but I was afraid that my parents would know. Because my parents were very traditional and feudal people, they finally came out to go to college. When such a thing happened, I felt very sorry for them. I blame myself every day, feeling like I'm committing a crime. I told him to have the surgery, but we don't have that much money. Then he didn't say anything, but later on, I was afraid to call him, but he told me he wanted to shut down the phone for five days and said something on QQ.
I am particularly angry about this. I wanted to go to the hospital for a check-up, but he turned off the phone and ignored me. He just doesn't want to take responsibility for me and doesn't want to pay to accompany me to the hospital. I don't know what to do now?
reply:
1. As a modern college student, it is understandable to try dating in an environment where campus romance is prevalent. However, the premise is that one must not affect one's academic performance, and also not easily taste forbidden fruits. If it is difficult to control oneself or in special circumstances, such as encountering violence and coercion, one should also consider taking self-protection measures, This is the minimum common sense that a college student should possess!
2. It's no use pouring out and complaining about such a result, you should be responsible for yourself. It can only be said that you are too careless in dealing with love and lack a sense of prevention towards the opposite sex. Are you too casual yourself? How could a girl go out with her first time boyfriend so easily? Do you admit to being too hasty? By doing so, you can easily create a frivolous and casual negative suggestion for the other party, which can easily lead to such consequences for yourself. For this, you must reflect and reflect on yourself.
3. Since you have discovered that your physiology is abnormal, whether this boy is willing to accompany you to the hospital or not, you must quickly go to the hospital for a check-up to see if you are pregnant or not. He is not responsible to you, you cannot be irresponsible to yourself, so don't count on this boy anymore. I don't have any money, so I can think of a way to borrow it from other classmates. I really can't do it. What about my parents? It's not good to be afraid of your parents knowing. Who made you careless? Now that you're sorry, is it useful for your parents?
4. As for this boyfriend, you can basically see his face through the cost this time. It turns out that this guy doesn't care about you at all, he just cares about sleeping with you. Since he is not the ideal romantic partner, cut him off completely, don't trust his sweet words, and don't be deceived by him again. As for people, when it comes to their age and what they do, don't rush to succeed. Currently, the most important thing for you is to complete your studies well. As for dating and marriage, it's better to leave it until the appropriate stage for you.