Post Date April, 15 2023
Recently, many people have also become addicted to the internet to alleviate loneliness and anxiety. Mr. Hongshang, do you know what the biggest problem with the internet is? After watching my play, an audience wrote this paragraph in a questionnaire survey. It's not because I'm too addicted to the internet that I don't go to school, or because I'm careless about my work, or because it leads to a cold relationship between husband and wife. These things are not important. The biggest problem is that 'comfort can be easily obtained'.
After reading the content written by this audience, I couldn't help but feel shocked, because that's exactly what I want to say to the students.
Getting comfort easily is just an emergency response. There was no surgery on the affected area, just a painkiller injection.
So, when the efficacy of painkillers passes, people soon want to seek comfort for the next time. Due to the fact that the effect of painkillers cannot be maintained for too long, people want to receive a second injection and become addicted to the internet. The most fundamental surgery is to make up your mind and face loneliness and unease on the road of life.
According to statistics, nearly 80% of unmarried women currently live with their parents, and even among those aged between 35 and 40, 60% live with their parents. Living with parents certainly has advantages, such as being financially well-off, so you can invest in yourself to get a license or pursue further education. However, I believe the negative impact is even greater.
University is a place where students don't know what to do.
Before graduating from high school, listen carefully to the teacher's words, have a clear life goal of taking the college entrance exam, and what to do is also very clear. After truly entering college, one may lose their goal, and no matter who they are, they will feel at a loss.
Although some people quickly change their goal to finding a good job, this is not as clear a goal as college entrance examination. At this time, they become unsure of what to do, causing most college students to lose their direction for a while.
This matter is very important. Even if you lose your direction, even if you don't know what to do, even if you get lost, you still have to live a life. Don't seek comfort from the club, nor dilute your inner confusion through chatting with family, or regard friendship as the meaning of life, let alone make getting an A in all subjects the goal.
Completely losing one's direction is important in life, allowing oneself to be completely lost and confused, and then fundamentally thinking about what one wants to do.
The young people who were previously absorbed into the Aum Shinrikyo Church are almost all highly educated, and the reason should be that they cannot tolerate the state of not knowing what to do. After the obedient child who followed the teacher's advice went to college, he lost his goal and couldn't bear it.
So, they threw themselves into the embrace of the bishop who gave them clear goals.
You may have questions: why should we learn without knowing what to do?
Because this is life.
In the process of life, you will inevitably fall into a state of not knowing what to do at some point. It may be at work, during a difficult marriage, after giving birth to a child, when the child is in trouble, or when retiring at the age of 60. In life, there will always be times when you don't know what to do. I think it's better to experience it at the age of 20 than wait until you're 60.
Because this can make people develop immunity and repeatedly explore, not knowing what to do is lonely and unsettling.
However, when you are young, you are more able to withstand this uncertain state. Therefore, I believe it is best to experience and adapt to loneliness and anxiety while you are young. It is dangerous to wait until you reach the age of 60 to experience the loneliness and anxiety of not knowing what to do well.
Perhaps some people may say: Aren't young people more likely to act recklessly because they can't bear loneliness and unease? As we age, we accumulate wisdom in life and become smarter in our dealings. Suggest that young people experience loneliness and unease, isn't it very dangerous? I think this opinion is very correct. The reason why Aum Shinrikyo acted recklessly is that those believers were too young.
Because of this, I have always advocated listening to the voice of the body. Young people's reckless behavior is the result of neglecting their own body and believing in the expected results of their own fantasies.
However, as long as they are able to face their own bodies, listen to their voices, and understand the limits of their bodies, the effect of practicing loneliness and anxiety for young people is more ideal. When young people see the rising sun, they will experience more motivation throughout their bodies, which is the hope of life. Although people at the age of 60 have life wisdom, they experience deeper and more difficult loneliness, which is why they need to practice.
I believe that college students need to live alone in order to face loneliness and anxiety, and I believe that even if they are not college students, everyone must live alone for at least a period of time in life.
