We often hear women say that they want to find a solid arm to lean on and receive comfort and firmness. In fact, men also need it. They are not looking for a stronger arm than themselves, but for a soft resting place that allows them to rest peacefully. It is not a solid but a warm dwelling.
A man's dependence is different from a woman's dependence. His dependence comes from a gentle greeting, a simple intimacy, or a woman's coquettish behavior, or a woman's concern and complaint for comfort.
Sometimes men need a woman's nagging, a woman's complaining, and even more so, a woman's endless narration of their day's experiences. You may see a big man lying in the arms of his own woman, listening to the woman's words, just like a child listening to a mother's story so seriously, and with so much drowsiness. They listen to women not to know anything, but to listen to music and enjoy a kind of expression from the bottom of their loved ones' hearts.
Men need to understand and care more, even a trivial question is a kind of beauty.
Some people say they dislike their women's nagging, which is true because this woman's nagging is a topic that annoys men. It really makes men feel that they are not listening to their own woman's words, but rather listening to a kind of noise.
Men are still afraid of loneliness. Even more afraid than women. They are afraid that their women will no longer speak, nor will they say anything in their hearts. They are afraid of their women's departure, and even if they leave for a short period of time, they will feel uneasy.
Men's dependence also comes from their attachment and loyalty to their emotions. They feel that attachment and loyalty to emotions are more important than anything else, because their biggest fear is a backyard fire, which will cause them to lose a belief in the meaning of life. The meaning of life comes from the loyalty of human nature. Once men feel the lack of human nature, they will feel that there is no longer anything to trust in this world, and then they will become a walking corpse, with no happiness to speak of.
Men's reliance also comes from respect, as they believe that emotional respect for each other is second only to loyalty and persistence towards their emotions. They believe that all emotions come from persistent loyalty and mutual respect. This respect comes from subtle expressions, and what is missing is a grand ceremony. Perhaps it's just a simple birthday gift, perhaps it's just a simple gesture of respect for oneself. Sometimes they don't need such specific things, just a genuine concern from the heart. This is both vanity and practicality for men.
Men, like women, cry out when they are most sad and lost. It's just a way of venting. At this moment, all that's needed is a woman's action - touch her head, say a few words of comfort, don't walk away, and enjoy the silence with him. That's enough.
Men can sometimes be very troublesome, but they are not as real as women. They do it secretly, and they don't even know what to say.
Men are also very fragile because they have more to bear than women. Even a woman who is stronger than men will not have more to bear, because men are a carrier shaped by God that needs to be borne, and you cannot escape!
(Intern Editor: Wu Weijie)