Is there four stages of marital breakdown? What things are not conducive to harmonious marital relationships

After the couple enters the bridal chamber hand in hand, after a hot period, they enter a period of conflict. If the conflict is not resolved in a timely manner, it becomes a dispute, entangled and unclear. Generally speaking, disputes are often manifested in external leakage, such as altercations, brawls, and destruction of objects, among parties with lower cultural levels and a bilious and bloody nature. Through mediation, it can be resolved, but then it repeats and the civil war continues. Among those with high cultural levels and mucous or depressive symptoms, it is often manifested as internal depression, seemingly not arguing or arguing, but being indifferent to each other and having gaps in their hearts, making mediation less effective.

Be on guard. The accumulation of disputes has led couples to become wary from estrangement, Commonly known as' bedridden dreams'. In the form of vigilance, fetishists often conceal their wealth and income from each other, while externals conceal their dealings with the opposite sex. In order to prevent the other party from seizing the opportunity and understanding the truth, both parties are on guard in terms of economy, social relations, and even personal career and future issues, and they keep their mouths shut, layer by layer, like anti-theft, to prevent the other party.

Cracks. Secrets will always be revealed one day. The disclosure of secrets leads to more serious disputes and increases vigilance; As a result, a vicious cycle was formed, and finally cracks appeared. Cracks manifest as strong dissatisfaction in emotions and mutual deviation in behavior. At this time, most people with living conditions are separated; Those without living conditions, even if cohabiting, are still back to back, and the well water does not invade the river.

Rupture. The cracks are getting bigger and bigger, unable to bridge, and the relationship is completely broken. There are generally three modes of choice for couples with broken relationships: one is to go their separate ways and divorce through legal procedures; Secondly, considering various reasons, it is inconvenient to divorce, so we have to make do with our lives, endure setbacks and bear heavy burdens, and the marital relationship remains in name only; The third is the breakdown of emotions, which cannot be reversed. It is just to torture the other party, refuse to divorce, "drag him (her) down, and not make him (her) happy." This drag on is both foolish and immoral, harmful to others and oneself.

Form within, then walk outside. There are four stages of emotional breakdown. The first two are formed within and are generally within the scope of inner activities, while the latter two are actions outside and are generally within the scope of action. Therefore, to prevent emotional breakdown, adjustments should be made when marital conflicts occur, and conflicts should be resolved in the bud.