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When I am with him, I really don't want to think that he has a family. That will remind me that no matter how close we are now, it is not really long-term.
He is so good that I can't imagine who I can fall in love with except him. He also loves me very much. He loves me so much that he almost spoils me. At the beginning, I didn't know he was married, so I fell into his gentleness foolishly and unprepared. He didn't tell me the truth until he saw the picture of his daughter's birthday on his mobile phone.
His wife takes care of children at home. He often travels to and from two cities because of his work, so even if he doesn't go home often, his wife won't be suspicious. He also used this convenience to convince me that he was single. The moment I know the truth, my world will collapse. It's hard for me to accept being cheated by the person I love most.
However, at that time, I loved him very much. I tried to break up, but I couldn't do it. Without him, I can't even live a good life. When I think of him, I will cry, and I feel a burst of pain. He also took advantage of the situation to save me. He always stressed to me that I was his baby. He felt the most sorry for me was that he could not give me a family. In addition, he could satisfy me with anything.
I said that his doting on me made me unable to leave him at all. Before him, I also had two boyfriends. I feel that men are just like that. When they fall in love, they are still self-centered. I really haven't met anyone who knows how to hurt people like him. It may be because he is eight years older than me, or because he has a daughter in his family. Although it is hard to think of this, I can't think of any other reason. I am not a particularly beautiful girl. I will also be angry and have unreasonable demands, but as long as I am not too much, he really depends on me.
He only quarreled with me once. The reason was that I asked him if he could get a divorce. He said that I was naive and did not understand the complexity of family restructuring. He said that I would not understand how difficult it is to bring children without having children. I asked how to know without trying? He lost his temper and said that I thought everything too simple.
Now, sometimes I miss the days when I thought he was still single, and sometimes I imagine the day when he really divorced and married me. I am really prepared to accept his daughter. For him, I can even not have my own children. Why should he maintain a family without love? Is this not a kind of harm to children? I want to have his love all the time. I have had enough of this kind of day when I don't know when I will lose contact. Every time he leaves me, my heart starts to panic and fear. I always find it difficult to fall asleep and feel tortured when he can't accompany me at night.
I love him so much, and he loves me so much. Why can't we have a choice again?
A:
It is because he cannot give you a clear future, so he uses double "pet" to tie you up and make you addicted and unable to leave.
This kind of kindness, without tying up the difficulties of life, and without bearing responsibility, let alone responsibility, is like cutting off a person's independent ability and putting it into a honeypot. Over time, the person can only accept the sweetness and can't bear any pain. This is morbid.
He makes you mistake him for a good man. However, leaving responsibility to talk about love is empty talk. Otherwise, where does your growing anxiety come from? Subconsciously, you have noticed that your emotions are like castles in the air, which have no foundation and may fall at any time, but you still have a little fantasy and hard support.
It should be noted that a man who knows how to take care of women and make women feel comfortable in all aspects is not born like this. You need to think carefully about how he learned his gentleness. Some people's "spoiling" is not for a specific object at all, but for anyone.
Honesty is too important. A relationship begins with cheating and is doomed to suffer later. Poor soil can not produce truly beautiful flowers of love, let alone good fruit.