Last night, I just returned from Taipei to Stockholm. Upon returning home, on a whim, I thoroughly sorted out the paper in the drawer. There were graduation certificates from previous schools, deposit checks for my first job, and small pieces of paper torn from my notebook to write articles. It was a jumble of junk that could be said to be completely useless now, but it was also full of memories that I couldn't bear to discard.
At the bottom of the drawer, there lies a kraft paper bag with three big words written on it: "For my son.". Suddenly, it occurred to me that this was a letter handed to me by my father Xu at the airport when I was just finishing my military career many years ago and preparing to go to New York to study. I read it on the plane a few years ago, and I didn't have any special feelings yet; Reading tonight, my eyes were moist. As expected, my parents are the ones who know my children best. My father Xu is completely conversant with my personality, and even I have been vaccinated in advance for possible situations I may encounter abroad.
Many years ago, I couldn't listen to Xu's father's words. After experiencing many things, I was shocked to realize that this letter from Xu's father is the accumulation of wisdom in life and the most profound reluctance and letting go of his children.
Below, I have extracted some paragraphs from Mr. Xu's letter and shared them with you:
Son, this time studying abroad is no better than before. Whether at home or abroad, college is a basic course of study. Now, I hope to focus on increasing my knowledge and knowledge, broadening my international perspective, and improving my future survival skills. During my study, I hope you can remember the following items to help you in the future.
A person can only grow by giving themselves a goal. Once they decide to go out to study, their mindset should be different. Think about everything more, pause, and don't take shortcuts. Instead, they should uphold a playful mood, an inclusive mind, and a humorous attitude to complete your studies and explore the future of life.
Without the mood of playing games, one will be too attached to the joys and sorrows, and too concerned about success or failure, making it difficult to enjoy the joys and sorrows of life and taste the true flavor of life; Without an inclusive mind, one will become rigid in thinking, unable to accommodate opinions, difficult to accept criticism, treat others as enemies, and set limits everywhere, making it difficult to be happy; Without a humorous attitude, one will not know how to laugh at oneself, be unwilling to be ordinary, or laugh off world events, and will become self limiting and unable to take things seriously.
Thirdly, interpersonal relationships need to be cultivated and paid attention to, but it is important to be careful and careful, especially when foreign customs and cultural backgrounds are different. Illegal and disciplinary activities must not be done. A truly successful person does not rely solely on his or her own strength. In fact, he or she knows more about integrating interpersonal resources to create more value. More importantly, he or she should have a good mind and a sharing attitude. The so-called pattern determines the outcome, and attitude determines the height. This is the truth.
In addition, emotional management is extremely important. Dad wants you to know that everyone has their emotions behind them. When you care about someone, not only can you not be unhappy with their abnormal behavior, but instead, you need to help them think: Is he feeling unwell? Did something happen to him? He was not good to me today, was it because he failed the exam? Is he so fierce today because he was scolded at home?
When you think so, you will not only not blame him, but also sympathize with him and comfort him. Isn't it much better than blaming him, blaming him, and adding insult to injury?
Child, people are very strange animals.
People with bad ears often speak very loudly to you; People with bad eyes often blame your handwriting for being too small; People in traffic jams often have a bad temper; Hungry people are often angry; Forgetful old people are often suspicious; Tired children often cry. They treat you badly, not because you are not good, but because they have problems with themselves.
So whenever parents have a short temper, a bad face, a loud voice, friends are in low spirits, and classmates have poor manners, think about what Dad said to you today, be considerate and learn to reflect on yourself.
"Your mother's yearning for you is never the same. Her love for you is beyond words. Her exhortations are to care and not give up. During the New Year, the birthdays of your mother, grandmother, and grandmother, as well as important dates for other family members, a short message is worth a thousand words. Remember, remember.".
Finally, the tempering of work gives Dad the impression that everything in life has the ability to turn. To be happy, one must stop complaining and let oneself change.
Be the master of your own life.
Is this letter from Xu's father exactly the life experience I have expressed in all my articles over the past few years? Whether it's changing one's mood, not forgetting one's family, or adjusting to pressure, it turns out that those principles were condensed into a short letter by Xu's father.
The author of this article should be named Xu's father! In the hearts of all parents, there are many exhortations that must be truly experienced before one can appreciate their pains.