Post Date April, 15 2023
My wife and I have been married for more than ten years, and our relationship has always been quite good. Since I added this woman in my life, she is more than ten years younger than me, my feelings towards my wife have changed. I often lose my temper with my wife when I have nothing to do. I only like being with this woman in my heart because being with her makes me feel energized. My wife is also very concerned about me now. Perhaps she hasn't felt that I have an affair yet, but I always think about this woman every day and want to be with her. I feel very worried and don't feel in the mood for anything. I feel really tired.
I can meet this woman now every day because we are from the same city, but I just can't let her go in my heart. I don't want to give up on my current family, and I don't want to give up on my current woman because I feel very happy with her and I am willing to give up for her. I have had this feeling before, but I haven't felt as deeply as I do now. I have given up my true love for this woman now. How should I deal with such troubles? What can I do to calm my heart?
Mr. Chen:
Throughout one's life, one is pursuing the best man or woman in their heart. In terms of the psychological feelings of sexual relationships, there is never the best, only the better. That's because our inner perfect complex and our desire to pursue happiness are too strong. So I will always feel that the partner around me is not good enough to satisfy all the desires in my heart.
It is said that some love games cannot be played, but often many people are curious and want to try the fun of this game due to the psychological pleasure of breaking the rules. However, once the rules of the game are broken, not only can the game not continue to be played, but it will also cause more pressure and distress. At that time, the happiness you originally wanted will become pain. Therefore, home is still our foundation, and my wife will always be the one who can accompany you for a lifetime. Games can bring us unexpected fun, but we cannot make a living from them, or if we lose our life due to games, then the gains outweigh the losses.
In short, there are many helplessness in life. When you fall in love and are confused, unknown, isolated, and filled with various complex and contradictory emotions, I hope you can find objective and reliable friends or professional marriage counselors to help you express your feelings and help you clear the chaotic emotions, and make rational decisions that will cause minimal harm to all parties.
