How to handle the relationship with her husband? This is a common problem between husband and wife. Many people are particularly helpless. They always think why the men after marriage are different from those in love? Many working women will envy housewives and think that they do not need to face the pressure of work. In fact, this is not the case. Housewives need to deal with some pressure, especially interpersonal pressure in the family. Because in the family, if women can't handle the relationship between themselves and their husbands well, then all kinds of pressure will follow. Therefore, the first priority for housewives to relieve interpersonal pressure is to deal with the relationship with their husbands.
So, how should a female friend handle the relationship with her husband?
Be a mature wife
After marriage, women can no longer use sex like little girls. Especially when you are with your husband, although you don't have to treat each other with respect, you should at least realize your responsibilities as a wife and be a mature wife.
To become a mature wife, women should do the following four aspects:
Respect for the husband: respect is the premise of love. Don't despise the husband. The harmony of a family is the result of mutual respect and mutual tolerance.
Positive and enterprising: A happy marriage requires change, motivation and progress. Therefore, as a wife, whether mentally, emotionally, spiritually or ideologically, we should strive to achieve the goal of family happiness.
Cooperation psychology: There should be a little sense of partnership. Husband and wife's life is like doing business together, with shared property, equal power and equal responsibility. Assuming that you are always the sole authority, your husband will be almost happy for a long time.
Don't expect your husband to be perfect: no man or woman is perfect. If you want your husband to be perfect, it will cause a defect of hope, and the marriage will not be perfect.
Considerate husband's hard work
The husband supports the whole family through hard work. Therefore, after the husband returns home, women should be considerate of her husband from the following aspects:
Both sexes
Careful and in-depth observation and mastery of the husband's temperament, personality, interests, hobbies, etc., is the prerequisite for considerate.
The content of consideration is very extensive, ranging from daily clothing, food, housing and transportation to nursing care during illness. In order to do this well, the wife needs to master some nutrition knowledge, cooking skills, gender knowledge, medical and health care knowledge, and understand her husband's physical and psychological needs at any time.
The timing of consideration is very easy to grasp, mainly when he is tired, hungry, unwell or ill; When he is mentally stimulated, such as career setbacks, family members' death, colleagues' tension or conflicts with others; When he is about to participate in important work or travel; When he needs to celebrate his birthday or success
There are also many ways to be considerate, not only to cook his favorite food or buy his favorite food. In fact, psychological consideration is more important than material consideration. A warm words and a affectionate kiss often warm the husband's heart and make him feel greatly satisfied.
Always praise your husband with reason
Couples sometimes need to praise and appreciate each other when they get along, which helps promote the relationship between them. When talking to her husband, the wife may as well try to praise her husband more.
Your husband needs your affirmation, support or encouragement when he makes achievements in his work, even if it is a little bit.
Don't forget to praise your husband when he makes contributions to society and others.
The husband should be praised when he is the first to suffer for his family and relatives, when he is the last to win, or when he cares, cares, and loves himself.
We should also give affirmation and praise to the husband's inner excellent character.
Refreshing words are the most common and important way of praise.
A approving look, a knowing smile and so on can all convey your inner feelings and express your praise or encouragement to your husband.
A cup of fragrant tea, a cup of delicious wine, a kiss or a few favorite dishes of her husband can also be used as a reward for her husband.
It should be emphasized that the praise between husband and wife should be mutual and equal. If only one party praises the other party, but no response or return is received from the other party, the praise will not last.
Be civilized with your husband
Some women mistakenly think that talking about civilization is a matter of social interaction. There is no need to speak polite language when couples love each other. In fact, the love between husband and wife is deep and profound, which needs civilized words and deeds to enhance and deepen.
If you speak to your husband politely, not only will you feel noble, but also he will feel respected. For example, when he comes home from work, you can say: "Honey, come back, take a break!" A simple sentence will make the husband who has worked hard all day feel the warmth of his family and the tenderness of his wife. Polite language is not only the fusion agent of love, but also the resolving agent of the contradiction between husband and wife. When you first use it, you may feel awkward. After a long time, you will become accustomed to it.
Compared with civilized language, civilized action is more important. You can try to do the following: get up earlier than your husband and prepare washing utensils for him; Go home earlier than your husband to prepare meals and bath water for him; When he is in a bad mood, he is tolerant of everything... Many actions, in fact, are just a simple move, but can make the husband satisfied psychologically, and the relationship between husband and wife is also growing.
Good at friendly communication with husband
Deepening the relationship between husband and wife needs to be realized through emotional resonance, rational echo, verbal speculation and action coordination. You should always communicate with him in a frank manner, which should be realized through daily conversation.
Before marriage, Bi Jing's understanding of her husband is limited, especially her understanding of her personality is not very deep. Therefore, after marriage, your conversation should not be limited to clothing, food, shelter and daily living, but more in-depth exchanges in mind, soul and soul.
We should have a conscious understanding of our husband's growth experience and often talk about each other's likes, dislikes, interests, specialties, hopes and ideals. The relationship between husband and wife is the combination of friendship, love and kinship. The communication between you and your husband should continue to deepen, never ending, until the perfect state. It is a perfect life for couples to know what to say and what not to say.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)