How should men and women divide their labor in sexual life? Identifying the 'sexual pulse' of both parties

Who should initiate sexual activity? Some couples are accustomed to the division of roles, and some husbands believe that they should be responsible for their wives' sexual needs. Therefore, "whenever and wherever she has a request, I will meet her and never refuse her." Some husbands also believe that sex is determined by men, and as long as they are happy, their wives can be satisfied, without considering the emotions and physical conditions of both parties at the time.

This is the result of being overly limited and constrained by the division of roles. In fact, there should be a certain division of labor in the role of sexual life, but it cannot be overly limited. The important thing is mutual understanding and respect. Efforts should be made to mobilize one's sexual initiative, explore the other's sexual potential, and through frank communication, understand each other's sensitive areas, suitable posture, foreplay methods, and other factors, in order to achieve consistency in both parties' sexual needs as much as possible. Although there is a certain regularity in sexual activity when the sexual needs of both parties are consistent, it is not constant. It changes with factors such as the quality of both parties' emotions, sexual desire, physical condition, and environmental conditions. There should be a regulatory mechanism to achieve an appropriate balance in both parties' satisfaction. Generally speaking, when the husband is young, the wife can cool down the overheated sexual response by changing the environment, distracting attention, etc; When a wife is young, she needs her husband to talk about love and often hug to help her sexual reactions rise, so as to accurately sense the "sexual pulse" of both parties and achieve harmony in sexual life.