If a person's IQ is a skeleton, then EQ is his skin bag. In order to gain a foothold in this society, in addition to ability, EQ also plays a decisive role.
So how can we improve EQ, or what are the characteristics of people with high EQ?
Don't complain or blame
As the saying goes, "people are not saints and sages, who can make mistakes?" But how many people can be absolutely considerate? Not only for yourself, but also for others.
It happens for a reason. Don't easily say that it comes from the criticism that it doesn't hurt or itch, because it doesn't happen to you. It is the most foolish behavior to pour all negative emotions on the people closest to you.
Have passion for life
People with high EQ are not without worries, but they will shift their focus and maintain their passion for life.
If you are complaining that you are overwhelmed by the same work every day, you should resign boldly and find the happiness you want; If you can't do it, put away those complaints, treat yourself well, and treat life well. These are your choices.
Be tolerant
There are no people and things in the world that can't bear, let, avoid, and endure. Only people who are haggard and have the size of a needle.
Of course, it is not that you have no principles and lose the bottom line, but that you should control the self-discipline in communication with others and relax your mind. You will find that the prime minister is not so difficult to do.
Learn to communicate
Communication seems simple, but it is a college question. In the communication between two people, 70% is emotion and 30% is content.
It is not high EQ to quarrel and win the upper hand many times. It is wise to swallow the most hurtful words in anger.
Praise others more
What you think, what you see. Those who are good at discovering others live easier and find happiness more easily than those who pick bones in eggs.
Praise from the heart is easier to draw closer than self-righteous majesty.
Keep a good mood
When you divide "good mood" into luxury goods, it is really dangerous.
It is easy to preach to others, but it is not easy to adjust yourself. In fact, in many cases, the bad thing is not the matter itself, but the attitude of looking at the problem.
Good habit of listening
Listening is the best communication between people. When people with high EQ disagree, they no longer stick to their own opinions, but choose to listen.
If you can't comfort others, put away your "It doesn't matter, everything will pass". There is a warmth that can melt slowly in listening and sublimate gradually in listening.
conscientious
Be responsible. When encountering problems, do not shirk responsibility, and take positive responsibility to solve them. You can not easily promise, but you must do what you say.
The ability depends on the strong sense of responsibility.