The day before yesterday, I received a cry call from my good friend, mostly telling me that her best friend seemed to have an affair with her boyfriend, and she didn't know whether to pretend to ignore or break up with him directly.
I asked back, "Why should we break up with him? Perhaps the responsibility lies with your trusted best friend." She shouted, "No way. She is my best friend. Do you know what a best friend is? A best friend is the best friend. You know more about each other than yourself." Then she hung up angrily.
I want to say, why not? There is nothing impossible in this world. The reason why you can become your best friend is mostly because you have the same hobbies, interests, habits and tastes, so what you like may not be what you don't like. And she is your best friend. Naturally, you know all your secrets and know each other very well. It is not uncommon for your best friend to become younger.
However, when there is a problem, many women blindly blame men for their lack of willpower, but never think about the role of their girlfriends in this, which is not desirable.
As a woman, I would like to make three suggestions for my fellow women:
1、 One meter, love and friendship are in crisis.
Many people always regard their best friend as another person. I will be the first to tell her when I am happy, and when I am sad, I will seek her comfort. Naturally, all the joys and sorrows in the process of communication are shared with my girlfriend.
Let me ask you, when a person reads in your ear for countless times, and the protagonist of countless times in your ear is the same person, people will have curiosity, which is the common disease of all people.
Perhaps at the beginning, your best friend has no interest in him at all, just out of curiosity to pay attention to your boyfriend, and then after your daily mention, curiosity turns into addiction. If you don't listen to him for a day, you will feel that there is something missing. Then I gradually became interested in your boyfriend. This is the situation within one meter. It is too close to be selfish.
Because you have similar taste with your best friend, and your best friend is interested in him. When love meets friendship, the only result is that your friendship is vulnerable.
2、 At 2 meters, my husband and confidant are swaying.
Women are more vain, and always want to prove their own charm, while most people tend to start from around. So you can't be too careless with your best friend.
Without forever friends, women are fickle, and no one knows what she is going to do next second. Don't trust a person too much. You should know that even relatives with blood thicker than water may betray themselves at any time. Whether it is a girlfriend who seduces her husband or her husband falls in love with her, it is not something you can bear. Within 2 meters, love is dangerous and friendship is swaying.
3、 3 meters, with red and blue faces.
For the person you decide to spend your whole life with, you must not let your girlfriend get too close. I can be my best friend because we have experienced a lot of things. Maybe we cried, maybe we made trouble, maybe we laughed together. So why don't you let your girlfriend get close to her husband?
One is that women are born weak and can't stand betrayal. The other is that their best friend is the crystallization of a long time company. It is very rare to find a person who can talk with them. The third is that the journey of love will be more sweet. Women's most important thing is to find an important attribution.
So it's better to make friends with your best friend. You can share your life, your joys and sorrows, but never your feelings. Three meters away, there will be your most peaceful existence.
Want a friendship that won't deteriorate? Let's shout out: My dear friend, please stay three meters away from my man.
(Intern editor: Liu Ruichang)