How do many cohabiting college students choose marriage?
The reporter's interview found that although the "marriage ban" for college students has been lifted, the phenomenon of college students getting married is not common in universities, while "trial marriage" and "marriage completion" are not uncommon.
A survey found that some stable college couples are considering getting married after graduation, while some intimate couples choose to cohabit and try out marriage without considering getting married.
Male students are the majority of those who do not wish to get married. Weak economic foundation, fear of taking responsibility too early, and just wanting to escape reality and taste the pleasure of married life are all reasons for not wanting to get married.
Public cohabitation under the blessing of parents
Interview location: South China Normal University
Interviewee: Xiao Chen (pseudonym)
Gender: Female
Age: 22 years old
Junior students
Xiao Chen is a seasoned 'female general', but in the summer before entering Huashi, she felt like she had truly met her 'true love'. The two started living together shortly after their passionate love.
Economic conditions are key
Xiao Chen's father is a government official and has a large family business, so Xiao Chen's life has always been carefree. The living expenses for a semester can reach around 8000 yuan, which does not include mobile phone recharge fees and school fees. While Xiao Chen's boyfriend is an on-the-job employee, and has a fixed income of several thousand yuan a month. In addition, his parents run their own family businesses, so they are called "gold" children and "jade" girls. While the stable economy has supported Xiao Chen and his boyfriend, the open-minded attitude of his parents has also opened up a "green card" for their cohabitation. Therefore, since his freshman year, Xiao Chen has often lived with his boyfriend and lived a sweet and sweet life together. Even with such favorable economic conditions, Xiao Chen and her boyfriend occasionally feel that the money is not enough to spend. Therefore, Xiao Chen always complains to his friends, "Both of them are more than enough to spend their own money, but for some reason, after spending money together, they actually feel that it's not enough. I used to not have to consider buying clothes, but now I have to look at the vegetables and eat
The "expectant mother-in-law" acts as a lubricant
After the sweet and sweet love period, the small frictions in life often led to arguments and even several breakups between the couple. Xiao Chen, who is still a student, is very unwilling to see his boyfriend socializing outside and only returns home late at night. But boyfriends also have their own troubles: they need to establish their own circle of friends and expand their career. Xiao Chen often waits for his boyfriend to come back until late at night, and the two of them have even had a big argument about it.
Xiao Chen and her boyfriend are both very young and often make things red in their faces over small things in life. Once, the two of them had another argument over a disagreement, and Xiao Chen was deeply saddened and disappointed by his boyfriend's refusal to back down. I decided to leave him at that time and started packing my luggage. But when Xiao Chen was about to leave, the kind words of the "mother-in-law to be" shook her. My future mother-in-law is really kind to me. I don't have to do anything at home, and when it's time to eat, she will ask me to come downstairs and have dinner. I enjoy it every day, and everyone has put on a lot of weight. My mother-in-law often asks me if I lack money, and if there are any fun and delicious things, she always thinks of me first. Perhaps it's because of the kindness of my future mother-in-law, or maybe it's because I still have a hard time giving up on my boyfriend, and Xiao Chen finally forgives him. I ultimately decided to stay by his side. Everyone has their own way of life, and since we choose to be together, we must learn to adapt and accommodate
Get married after graduation with favorable conditions
We were going to get married at that time! Why else would we live together? "Xiao Chen believed deeply in himself and his boyfriend's eventual entry into the marriage hall. A friend once warned Xiao Chen to beware of deteriorating relationships. Xiao Chen appeared very confident, saying, "If the relationship between two people is not deep or long-lasting, even if they get married, they will still divorce. Who can guarantee that the relationship will remain unchanged for a lifetime? No! As long as we love each other now, we believe that we will definitely bloom and bear fruit in the future
My boyfriend and I cohabit differently than what you think. Some people cohabit just to try a new way of life, or to put it bluntly, to try sex, but my boyfriend and I are together for the sake of getting married in the future. Now that we are getting along and getting familiar with each other, isn't it natural for us to get married in the future? "Xiao Chen's boyfriend also said: We are now focusing a lot of energy on how to manage our common living expenses, and we both want to create better conditions for each other. This feeling is good. We divided our money into usage and investment, bought a little fund, and the two of us watched the rise and fall of the fund, feeling very united and united
Xiao Chen believes that his relationship with his boyfriend is stronger than that of Jin Jian, and with the superior conditions of both families, getting married is everything possible, only due to Dongfeng. As soon as you graduate, you can immediately enter the palace of marriage.
Cohabitation is preparing for marriage
Interview location: Residential houses in urban villages near Guangdong Normal University of Technology
Interviewee: Xiaokang (pseudonym)
Gender: Male
Age: 23 years old
A Technical Normal College in Guangzhou
Senior students
Xiaokang and his classmate Sisi rented a house of less than 20 square meters in a city village near the school, with a monthly rent of 400 yuan and self payment for water and electricity. According to Xiaokang, he and his girlfriend have been living here for more than half a year. Take a look at the furnishings in the room: a bed that can accommodate two people, a half new computer on the table, a half new computer on top of a half meter high TV cabinet with a 17 inch color TV, several plastic stools, as well as small things such as a water dispenser and pots and pans.
Xiaokang told reporters that he and Sisi are classmates, and Sisi is a lively and outgoing cute girl. He has been secretly in love with Sisi since his freshman year, but he has never had the opportunity to confess it. Sisi seems to also know Xiaokang's thoughts, and the two have been so ambiguous. It wasn't until after the final exam of the sophomore year that the whole class went to sing K together that Xiaokang finally confided in Sisi through his drunkenness and was accepted by Sisi. This late love finally became clear.
The reporter asked if they were planning to get married after graduation, Xiaokang immediately said: We will definitely get married. We have already met our parents, and everyone in our family supports us. Otherwise, we wouldn't dare to come out and rent a house together. Now that college students can get married, cohabitation is not a big deal. So after we met the parents of both parties, they didn't object, so we settled in together with peace of mind. We were planning to get married when we could find a job after graduation, and now we live together It can better reflect on your thoughts and also plan for your future marriage.