Marriage and family are the flower beds of love. The flower beds should have enough space to grow, planned planting, sometimes plowing, sometimes fertilizing, sometimes transplanting, and sometimes uprooting.
Planting flowers depends on the season. The seasons are different, and the flowers that bloom are also different. Marriage life also has four seasons, and each season has different difficulties and dangers. And the meaning of danger does not mean "crisis in crisis"? So love flowers should be carefully watered. If they grow together with weeds, they will be disrupted and killed. If they are exposed to the wind and sun, they will not grow well. Only through hard irrigation, sufficient preparation, and patient waiting can they bear fruit through hard work sooner or later. Isn't maintaining a harmonious family a form of learning?
Here, the teacher in Jutianzhong reminds everyone of the four dangerous periods of marriage life:
First danger period:
When the child is born, the pressure on the couple suddenly increases, and their original play and entertainment are greatly reduced. The "triangle" relationship generated by the arrival of the child has changed the original "two person world", and couples feel tense, confused, and confused about their marriage at the same time.
Second danger period:
During the period of four to five years after marriage, couples tend to find life dull and boring. My husband has been working for many years, but he has no bright future and is even more lazy about household chores; The wife is busy with both work and taking care of the children, and both husband and wife have no free time to love each other. At this time, they may find another confidant. A sociologist surveyed 70 women who had an affair with a married husband and found that most of these extramarital affairs began with simple friendship. When a husband or wife confides in others the confidences they should have told each other, both spouses are inevitably to blame.
Third danger period:
A survey by sociologists around seven years after marriage found that between the sixth and tenth years after marriage, the satisfaction level of couples with their marriage drops to its lowest point. In fact, the incidence of divorce also peaks in the seventh to tenth year after marriage. At this time, both spouses should help each other with the utmost patience and care to ensure the quality of their marriage.
Fourth danger period:
Around twenty years after marriage, the physical condition of both men and women gradually changes. Wives often become restless and anxious as they enter menopause, worried about losing all their charm, while husbands are worried about aging - their energy is no longer abundant, their talents are no longer agile, they cannot play basketball against their sons, and their promotion is completely hopeless. At this moment, he was in need of understanding and comfort, and his wife also had the same request. If a couple cannot give each other, they may go to other members of the opposite sex to search for them.