Post Date June, 30 2023
What are the laws for couples to get along with? Spouse, also known as "husband and wife," refers to the mutual spouses of both men and women in a legal marriage. It is the basis on which other kinship relationships (blood relatives, in marriage relatives) occur. Below, the editor will introduce to you the laws that govern the relationship between husband and wife.
What are the laws for couples to get along with
1. Stir frying law
The wife is definitely the one who often cooks, and the husband is the one who cooks delicious.
2. Law of Loyalty
The more a wife loves her husband, the more loyal he is to his wife; The more a husband loves his wife, the more disloyal the wife is to him.
3. The Law of Spending Money
The wife spends money on grooming (beauty, clothing), while the husband spends money on indulgence (cigarettes, alcohol, cards, etc.).
4. The Law of Buying Vegetables
As soon as you arrive at the market, you don't know what to buy. The wife is the one who knows what to buy, and as soon as you arrive at the vegetable market, the husband is the one who buys what to see.
5. Maturity Law
The husband who is deeply loved by his wife is more mature, and the wife who is pampered by her husband is less mature.
6. Work Law
In the eyes of my husband, there is always nothing to do at home; In the eyes of his wife, there is always unfinished work in the family.
7. The law of going out
The wife is the one who is most anxious to go out, and the last one to go out is also the wife.
8. Home Rule
The wife wants to go home as soon as she goes out, while the husband doesn't like to go home as soon as he goes out; Once the wife is unwilling to go home, the husband has to hurry home; If the husband is unwilling to go home, the wife will have to leave home sooner or later.
9. Law of argument
The more unfounded the argument, the more intense it becomes.
10. Persuasion law
Once a conflict arises between a couple, the more people come forward to persuade them, the more difficult it is to resolve the conflict.
The true essence of marriage
The true essence of marriage, excerpted from Cao Jing's "Love Belief Theory", is the mechanism that controls the relationship between men and women. Marriage has no inevitable relationship with love, life, family, or childbirth. Marriage points to a controlled ethics, while love points to a voluntary ethics. In ancient times, almost the whole world was engaged in Arranged marriage, which emphasized that marriage ethics (control ethics) dominated everything between men and women. For a long time, influenced by ancient ethics, the ethics of love have been removed and transformed into "preparing for marriage in love". The logic is that love is only a process of selecting and preparing, and must wait until marriage to have sanctity. In fact, as long as you are willing, love itself can generate divinity.
When you look at the ancient classics and the Christian Bible, you will find that there are basically descriptions of Arranged marriage, but no descriptions of love. The ancient Christianity was basically a Arranged marriage. Later, the adaptation of Christianity, "love prepares for marriage", influenced the whole world. However, in this thought, it did not recognize that love can produce sacredness, but it was just a process of choice. The so-called marriage oath today is actually a kind of love oath, which can also be sworn before marriage, and can also generate sanctity. If the true essence of marriage is control, then Arranged marriage may be the true face of marriage. After the end of the Arranged marriage, the control power of the marriage weakened. The term "Arranged marriage" was invented by later people, and ancient people may think that marriage was originally arranged.
Many people believe that they entered marriage because of love, but the truth is that they entered marriage because of control.
There are two simple pieces of evidence here. Firstly, people without love can get married. Secondly, people in love can be unmarried.
Precautions after marriage
1. The separation from the family you grew up in emotionally will not cause estrangement, but it should be enough to make your identity independent of your parents, brothers and sisters.
2. Establish shared intimacy and unity based on unity, while setting boundaries at the same time to protect the autonomy of each partner.
3. Establish a rich and enjoyable sexual relationship and protect it from complex work and family obligations.
4. Couples with children embrace the challenging role of parents and absorb the influence of the baby's entrance into marriage.
5. Learn to continue working and protect the privacy of you and your spouse as a couple.
6. Facing and controlling the inevitable crises in life.
7. Marriage maintains strength in adversity. Marriage should be a safe haven where partners can express their differences, anger, and conflicts.
8. Use humor and laughter to maintain a perspective on things and avoid boredom and isolation. Support and comfort each other, meet the needs of every partner, and provide continuous encouragement and support.
9. The early romantic heart that remained alive fell in love, while facing rational reality, as time passed.
