In the face of women's vanity, most men have the spirit of "losing their teeth and swallowing blood": "Can this make me a man difficult?"? "Men who quarrel or even divorce with women due to their vanity characteristics should be rare. Most men just regard it as a woman's ignorance or idleness, but this does not mean that a woman's vanity can expand without reason.".
The vast majority of women's vanity is caused by "lack", such as having wanted but not being able to obtain, and there is a deeper psychological state behind this that needs to be interpreted, namely, lack of self-confidence, leading to a sense of insecurity within, and the need to grasp something substantial, or to please others and attract their attention.
Showing off is a woman's self-defense instinct, which was originally justifiable. However, if it is not possible to strengthen their confidence from the root, such as through continuous learning and self enrichment, and more communication with outside intellectual friends, and daily living is just vulgar and frivolous, then if a man encounters a pink confidant, he will soon be attracted to it, which is the truly fatal sequela.
Therefore, a confident woman, presumably first of all, won't struggle with her own purse and be happy to be a black sheep; "I won't be too busy yelling and shouting about" a wife is valued for her husband "or" a wife is valued for her son ", let alone creating the illusion of" a popular lover "like a flower addict, waiting for others to be surrounded by stars and moons. On the contrary, it should be" gentle and respectful "that is afraid of boasting too much, and" frugal "that is within my power. This temperament and vanity are completely different.".
Whether it's work, career, or community performance, compared to women, modern men are already at a disadvantage everywhere. In addition to being timid and getting along with women, if they still feel the vanity of women's bravado from time to time, it must have an impact on emotions and marriage management. If it's impossible to keep a man alive, it's time to step back. I believe this is definitely not what women who want to grow old with men expect.
The vanity of women in the eyes of men also includes:
1: I never dare to refuse others, even if it is the most reluctant thing for me, I will agree because of my face. Usually I regret it in the end, but I still dare not say no next time.
2: Never willing to ask for help, for fear of being laughed at and incompetent by others. "In the face of hardship, she would rather have her teeth knocked off and her stomach swallowed. Usually, if you offer to help her, she will receive a cold shoulder.".
3: Never allow others to oppose you, especially in public. Her authority is greater than that of Empress Dowager Cixi. If you contradict her in front of an outsider, you are tantamount to offending her, regardless of whether you are correct or not.
4: I always say I'm young, and when I'm in my thirties, I just open my mouth and say, "We girls.".
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)