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"For my love, I entered my father-in-law's house to live in a low profile, but in exchange for the ridicule of my wife, I became angry."
My wife and I fell in love at school. At that time, we were in our twenties when we were in youth, without the complex thoughts of the real society, and our hearts were filled with love. "I told her that my family's conditions are not as good as theirs, and getting married may be a bit of a fantasy.". She said that she would convince her parents that no matter what kind of person's life she lived with me in the future, she would have no regrets or complaints. I am very moved and grateful for the presence of such a girl who loves me in my life. After graduation, I am ready to propose to their family.
My family also has a brother, who is four years older than me. After graduating from high school, he went out and wandered, and he is still unmarried. "My brother's age belongs to late marriage, but due to family conditions, he has been unable to find a suitable partner.". My father spent all his savings in order to choose a suitable daughter-in-law for his brother. I bought my brother a house of 90 square meters in the county seat and married him a favorite daughter-in-law. When I got married, my parents ran out of money, and I didn't complain about them, because my parents and brother supported me in college.
"I went to my wife's house to propose a marriage. Her parents said they would follow the normal procedure and asked for a 150000 yuan bride price. When I was worried about the money for the bride price, my wife told me that she would let me enter their house so that the money for the bride price would be free, and she had a lot of trouble persuading her parents.". I like her, and the thought of her promise to me filled my heart with the urge to marry her. "I compromised, and my parents were taken care of by my eldest brother, which reassured me.".
"The wedding day was very lively, but my heart was always strange, and I couldn't lift my head for the reason of being burdensome.". "My parents still gave me 100000 yuan, saying that I couldn't let the woman look down on me.". "I know they borrowed the money, and when I got it, I felt particularly sad and vowed to be good to them in the future.". After marriage, I lived with my wife and her parents. In addition to my own work, I also have to take on the housework at home. My role is entirely that of a housewife, including washing, cooking, and doing housework.
Although I feel very aggrieved, seeing my wife smile at me makes my heart warm and I feel that these things are nothing. I secretly make up my mind to earn money well, buy a house early, and live together with my wife. Three years have passed, and I serve them like a servant, while her mother often gives me directions and tells everyone that if it weren't for her daughter, I would still be living in that remote rural area.
"I was very angry, and she said it was nothing behind my back. On the other day, because of a small matter, my wife and I had a dispute. My mother-in-law said this to my face, and I felt that my self-esteem was worthless and I was trampled on. After replying to my mother-in-law for a few words, my wife flew into a rage and said, 'Don't be ashamed, eat from their family, live in their family, and be so arrogant. What's the matter?'".
I have been cheated. I have my own job, and my salary is paid monthly. I eat the money I earn. How can I become a freeloader? I was not convinced and gave her a hand on the spot. She beat and scolded me like a shrew. I couldn't bear to give her a slap in the face, and she slapped me like crazy. I don't know how to get along with her. I let her down and gave her face everywhere, but she trampled on my dignity cruelly. I was very disappointed. Where was the innocent girl back then? Can our marriage continue?
Reply from the maintenance consultant:
Hello. For men, it's a bit of inferiority complex to be burdened by themselves. "Your family conditions are not as good as hers, and you particularly want to marry your wife. For your love, you have to live in your parents-in-law.". This series of contradictions arise because of lack of money. "When you hand over your salary to your wife, it may seem like a sign of loyalty, but it's actually digging a hole for yourself.".
"You should manage your own money, buy a house early, and get out of this situation, rather than pleasing your wife by giving her the money and leaving no room for yourself until you end up living and eating for nothing.". Love is different from marriage. Don't connect the two together. Real life can change people's minds, and you can't stay put. "Now that your marriage is having problems, it will be a matter of time.".