Post Date April, 15 2023
My husband and I were separated for a long time, and he had a new partner, which I discovered. Last year, we divorced.
I like badminton and met a coach who often teaches and accompanies me in playing, which has helped me improve my skills. We often play badminton together, eat together, and drive out together. Gradually, I fell in love with him. He treats me very well, but he occasionally tells me that he has a family, and family always comes first to him.
Although I told him that for a while I had made up my mind not to interact with him, there were always things that came together again. We had already lived together, and as long as we didn't mention anything about his family, he would do anything and treat me very well. Now, due to a small matter, I have decided to leave him, but my heart is always unable to let him go. It is a painful thing to think of him everywhere. Sometimes I unconsciously come downstairs to him, as if God had arranged for him to sit on a bench downstairs. What should I do? I really love it.
Ms. Zhu:
Love is equal communication and requires both parties to have equal legal identities. The love that occasionally arises together, although deeply ingrained, cannot possess a legitimate outer garment and connotation, and is destined to fail to produce legitimate results. If this kind of love continues to develop, unless you admit to accepting such an illegal outcome, and this man needs to bear the responsibility of love. I think it's difficult for you to do it, and this man is even more difficult to do it. When you are in pain, it may seem like a desirable man appears, but apart from temporarily comforting a broken heart, it is impossible to permanently solve the pain in your heart. The man's behavior has clearly informed him of the bottom line. So, don't be stubborn.
The only thing left is to forget this relationship. This is painful, but also a helpless choice. Time is a remedy, and it can only be used to wash away and dilute the pain caused by failed emotions. Don't expect friendship to replace your current emotions, give your current regrets a space for imagination. This will leave endless regrets for your future life and marriage. Only from the realistic possibility, cherish the present and plan your future, so that the present and future life are on the right path of telepathy.
