Now, premarital cohabitation is normal. If two people are "engaged on the premise of marriage", cohabitation is equivalent to trial marriage. When cohabiting, the most important thing to do is to pay attention to some details and avoid "marrying the wrong person" or "marrying the wrong person" in the future.
1. Both parents
If his parents still treat him as a child, I hope you can coax him like him, and he also enjoys the treatment of being a son, but your motherhood is not so enough, which will cause a lot of friction in the future; If both parents don't get along well, it is difficult to achieve even superficial harmony, which will also become a problem; If you don't like his parents, or he doesn't like your parents, it will also become a hidden danger of future happiness.
2. How to use money
One saving, one waste. For example, when the water and electricity bill is received every month, the party who may save will complain:
Why always forget to turn off the light? Why is the water always on when brushing? One likes it and buys it. The other always buys cheap goods The difference in money and buying methods actually includes the difference in the whole values.
3. How to spend the rest day
If you like to sleep late on the day off, he prefers to get up early and clean up the house, and he still has to fight you. The fight is inevitable. Only parents can tolerate the friction caused by the difference in the time of getting up; On the other hand, if the other party is indecisive and always cannot decide what to do together on the weekend; Or, on the contrary, always making rough decisions about what to do will cause unhappiness.
But this is easier to solve. Both parties can make a rule, for example, Saturday is the female birthday, Sunday is the male birthday, and girls' day will take precedence over girls, and everything is subject to girls. vice versa.
4. Whether the discussion about children can reach a consensus
Before marriage, be sure to discuss this topic deeply and repeatedly, so as to know whether the other party's ideas are consistent with their own general direction. For example, whether one wants children or not; One hopes for cramming education, the other hopes to develop personality and so on.
5. Family affairs
In fact, it not only includes the question of who should do how much housework, but also needs to pay attention to some trivial matters: for example, a person who likes to litter, a clothes hanger and a clothes hanger are almost the same distance; One likes to keep everything, and the other magazine will be treated as garbage after reading it; Even the difference from squeezing toothpaste is that small things make big things. Such details often become the fuse of a big quarrel.
Other life details that need attention include: TV remote control; Diet (the noise during eating; whether to drink too much; whether to continue to eat or dump the dishes overnight... especially now that more and more people buy cars, there is a new problem: when you drive, does he always guide from the side (verbose)? He always asks you to follow his route? It seems that it is more and more difficult for men to learn to keep silent inside.
(Intern editor: Zhao Minqing)