Post Date April, 15 2023
Late at night, in the temple, one person, one Buddha, the Buddha sits and stands.
Person: Holy Buddha, I am a married person, and now I am madly in love with another man. It's hard for me to see him for a day! I really don't know what to do.
Buddha: Can you be sure that the man you love now is the only last man in your life?
Person: Yes. I haven't been tempted for many years! I don't want to miss this moment!
Buddha: You divorce and then marry him.
Person: But my current lover is diligent, kind, and responsible. Is it a bit cruel and immoral for me to do so.
Buddha: It is cruel and immoral to have no love in marriage. You are now in love with someone and no longer love them. You are right to do so.
Person: But my wife loves me very much, really loves me.
Buddha: Then he is happy.
Person: I want to divorce him and marry someone else. He should be very painful, but how can he be happy?
Buddha: In marriage, he still has his love for you, but you have lost your love for him in marriage. Because you fall in love with someone else, it means that what you have is happy, and what you lose is painful. Therefore, you are the one who suffers.
Person: But I'm going to divorce him and marry someone else. It should be because he lost me. He should be in pain.
Buddha: You are wrong. You are just a concrete manifestation of his true love in his marriage. When you do not exist, his true love will continue to another concrete, because his true love in his marriage has never been lost. That's why he's happy and you're miserable.
Person: He said he only loves me in this life, and he won't fall in love with others.
Buddha: Have you ever said such things?
Person: I... I... I
Buddha: Now look at the three candles in the incense burner in front of you, and the one is the brightest.
Person: I really don't know. It seems that they are all the same bright.
Buddha: These three candles are like three men, and one of them is the man you love now. There are millions of men in the world. You don't even know which one of these three candles is the brightest, and you can't find the person you love now. Why can you be sure that the man you love now is the only last man in your life?
Person: I... I... I
Buddha: Now take a candle and put it in front of your eyes, and take a look at the brightest one with your heart
Person: Of course, this one is the brightest in front of you.
Buddha: Now put it back where it was and take a look at the brightest one
Person: I really still can't see the brightest one.
Buddha: In fact, the candle you just took is like the last man you love now. The so-called love comes from the heart. When you feel that you love her, you look at it with your heart and feel that it is the brightest. When you put it back in place, you can't find the brightest feeling. Your so-called last and only love is just a mirror of water, and ultimately it is nothing.
Person: Oh, I understand. You're not asking me to divorce my lover. You're enlightening me,
Buddha: See through, don't tell through. Go ahead
Person: I really know who I love now. He is my current lover.
Buddha: Amitabha, Amitabha
"The person you and I once loved deeply is nothing more than one of all living beings. Just because you love from your heart and think of him, she will be the most loved one in this life. When you feel that you love him and you love him with your heart, you will feel that he is the most precious one. When everything returns to its original state and life continues, he and she are no more than a passer by in our lives.".
We simply cannot determine which one is the most beloved in this life. If we do not know how to cherish, the person around you who loves you and who you love will one day become a passer by beside you.
Finding someone you love is not easy, nor is finding someone who loves you. If you can't determine which one is your favorite person, why not cherish this feeling when you become someone else's lover? Love comes from your heart. If you tell yourself you love him or her, you can naturally fall in love with him or her.
If the person you love doesn't love you, remember that love comes from within. It's you who focus too much on him or her. Try to let go of the focus, and you'll find bright candles everywhere.
"To love or not to love is nothing but between thoughts.".
Past events Past love, let it go. It's just a part of our lives, just a drop of water in the vast sea, just a tiny dust in the long crossbow. Without the past, it won't make us who we are now.
Cherishing the present is always better than half hearted.
