Young people interviewed believe that managing a happy marriage is the most important aspect

Compared to their parents, this generation of young people places more emphasis on spiritual 'door to door' in love and marriage. They are unwilling to compensate in marriage and hope for a higher quality of marital life. What is the impact of changes in young people's attitudes towards marriage? How to obtain and maintain a happy marriage?

Last week, the Wenjuan website of the Social Survey Center of China Youth Daily conducted a survey on 1764 young people. The survey results showed that 56.5% of respondents believe that changing young people's attitudes towards marriage helps them establish independent views on marriage, namely marriage, marriage, and marriage. Although 45.9% of respondents believe that young people's sense of family responsibility will change as a result. Weak. For the sake of a happy marriage, the young people interviewed believe that both parties should respect and tolerate each other, have income, and have their own social circle.

Social governance, social order, spiritual outlook, and family are related

Wu Bo, 25, is a graduate student at Renmin University of China. He has a good relationship with his girlfriend, but due to financial reasons, he does not want to get married. He believes that this generation of young people are more confident, have their own principles, and tend to live for themselves.

In the previous generation of marriages, in many cases, it was to find someone to establish a small family and live together. Nowadays, more and more young people do not need to worry about their livelihood, and their lives are rich and diverse, with higher requirements for marriage. Guo Huiling, a 23-year-old graduate student at Renmin University of China, believes that young people have a healthy view of marriage. If they marry with this view, the quality of life after marriage will be higher.

National senior psychologist Zhou Xiaopeng analyzed that young people get married later than before, which is also related to extending life expectancy. In her opinion, there's no problem with this When a person is able to choose the most suitable marriage when they are mature and rational, it can bring more stability to the marriage and also be beneficial to social stability and harmony

In the survey, 56.5% of young people believe that changing their attitude towards marriage helps them establish an independent concept of marriage, while 42.7% of young people believe that this will improve the quality of marriage.

Du Lili, 27 years old, comes from Foshan City, Guangdong Province. She recently broke up with her boyfriend due to emotional discord. Many young people around her have no attitude towards marriage I think this may lead to a decrease in future fertility rates, especially in first tier cities where the cost of raising children is too high, making it difficult to have children and raising them difficult. I don't have the courage to unconditionally pay for my child.

Wu Bo believes that the attitude of young people towards marriage can lead to a more common phenomenon of late marriage and late childbirth. "The urging and forced marriage of parents can also exacerbate family conflicts, and conflicts between these two generations are not conducive to family harmony.

Liao Ying, 26, is a teacher at a training school in Chengdu. She is married and has children, and has a good relationship with her husband. In her opinion, the unwillingness of young people to get married may lead to more elderly people living alone in society, which exacerbates the aging of society.

Wang Xiaoyan, 27 years old, from Tangshan, Hebei, is about to marry her lover. She believes that not being in a hurry to get married is a sign of greater independence. But she also believes that family emotional support for a person is irreplaceable.

In the survey, 55.6% of young people are also concerned that their views on marriage will lead to more late marriage and childbirth, which will exacerbate the problem of social aging; 45.9% of young people are worried that their sense of family responsibility will be cooked by us.

Zhang Baoyi, Director of the Sociology Research Institute of the Tianjin Academy of Social Sciences, said that the overall social governance, social order, spiritual outlook, and family are all related. In addition, there is an important relationship between the country's pension issues, unemployment rate, and families. The family plays the role of a social regulator. Family harmony will reduce the outbreak of social conflicts and make society more stable The decrease in marriage rate will have a significant impact on employment, the growth of the next generation, pensions, population policies, healthcare, public services, etc. For example, providing for the elderly, families now bear a relatively heavy responsibility for providing for the elderly.

How to maintain a happy marriage? 59.9% of young respondents believe that both parties should respect and tolerate each other

Liao Ying believes that marriage is all about firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, and tea. They are no longer as sweet and beautiful as when they fell in love before. Both spouses should have a sufficient sense of responsibility, fulfill their respective duties, care for each other, tolerate each other, take care of each other, and treat each other as family members At the same time, both sides should be conscious, united and cooperative, and support each other, and cannot completely rely on each other

Wang Xiaoyan believes that in marriage, two people should always be honest and relative, and cannot be deceived Two people are always struggling together, which requires mutual understanding, not being too self centered, too selfish, not arguing, breaking up, and divorce without saying a word. Everything should be considered based on the overall situation.

For a happy marriage, the most important things for young people surveyed are mutual respect and tolerance (59.9%), having an income (54.1%), and having their own social circle (48.9%).

Zhang Baoyi analyzed that compared to the past, young people are willing to give less, tend to care more about themselves, and lack a sense of responsibility to maintain their families. After the establishment of a family, the vitality of the family decreases, and the attraction between spouses decreases. This is where young people need to make up for their lessons Marriage is actually a very simple thing, which is to care and love each other, make each other feel warm, and make each other feel at home without wanting to go anywhere, rather than just being satisfied with self-improvement. To achieve this, we must first be aware of it.

Among the surveyed youth, 48.1% were males and 51.9% were females. 30.8% live in first tier cities, 47.3% live in second tier cities, 19.3% live in third and fourth tier cities, 2.3% live in county towns, and 0.3% live in townships.