Post Date April, 15 2023
Once, a Hong Kong writer, Cai Lan, went to Beijing for an event. Among them was a Beijing female journalist who looked young and good-looking. Every time she said something, she would always use the word "yo" as her mantra. "She introduced herself to Cai Lan and said, 'I'm a senior journalist, so the two of them chatted for a few moments.'".
"When I first came out as a journalist, what was the average salary in Hong Kong?" she asked.
"A monthly salary of 8000 to 10000 yuan," I said. "When I first joined the industry, there were 5000 or 6000 yuan."
"Yo!" The woman said in surprise, "So little?"
The mainland economy is taking off, and maybe she's earning more than us, which is not surprising.
"How big is the restaurant you mentioned?"
"Two thousand five hundred feet," I said. "According to your calculation, it's 250 meters."
"Yo!" The woman looked surprised again, "So small?"
"How many years has that been open?"
"Fifty or sixty years ago, it's an old brand," I said.
"Yo!" In addition to being surprised, she also smiled darkly, "It's only fifty or sixty years old. What kind of time-honored brand is it?"
The above is Cai Sheng's record of their conversation in his article.
In her article, Empress Cai Lan commented on the woman and said, "My father said that some women are like fish sold in the vegetable market.". "It looks fresh, but you can't make her talk. As soon as she opens her mouth, she smells a stench.".
Women with low EQ rarely see things from the other person's perspective. They often rely on their pitiful insights to express ironic opinions about certain things. Cai Lan was born at least 40 years earlier than her, born into a wealthy family in Singapore, and later studied in Japan. She served as a resident manager of Shaw Film Company in Japan. She has lived in Tokyo, New York, Paris, Seoul, Taipei, Barcelona, and Bangkok, and worked as a film producer and resident in Hong Kong. She may not have been born when Cai Lan started writing. When Cai Lan entered the hosting industry, the reporter was at most in junior high school! No wonder the words of a female journalist would make a big smile in front of this elderly Chinese man who claims to be the most enjoyable and versatile person in life. Even more terrifying is the fact that low EQ leads to complacency, thinking that one knows the best truth in the world, which is really too unconscious. Although it is your fault to have a low EQ, it is even more your fault to come out and make people feel uncomfortable.
Lin Zhiling is recognized as a woman with high IQ and EQ in Taiwan's entertainment industry. When she made her debut as a model at the age of 30, many people mocked her as a vase, but only because of her family background and doll voice. Lin Zhiling's response was polite and appropriate: "Is it a vase? Very good. This is also a way of affirming myself to the outside world. I will take it as a compliment and say thank you again. Of course, if you are really interested in this vase, over time, you will see a real me."
Women with high EQ have confidence that negative evaluations can be improved by the power of gentleness rather than destroyed by an angry attitude.
It is well known that Lin Zhiling is tall and tall. At the "Red Cliff" press conference a few years ago, a reporter asked that she and Tony Leung's height did not match. Lin Zhiling smiled and replied, "A man's bearing is far better than his height.". The reporter was mute and didn't say anything.
Another reporter asked, "Will you hug your partner Tony Leung?"? Lin Zhiling said, "You can't get a hug until the other Ling gives you permission."
High EQ means understanding and understanding others, and doing something for the people around you. "People who show themselves everywhere may not always be unfavourable, while the gentleness of high emotional intelligence is like water, which can lead to the softness of galloping through the most rigid parts of the world.".
And gentleness can create more gentleness.
Mrs. Claire Underwood in the American Drama Solitaire Room is also a woman with a high emotional intelligence. She graduated from Harvard University with a noble background and elegant demeanor. She has her own career, but she always puts her husband's career first because she knows they have common goals.
She deeply supports and understands her husband. When Underwood and young journalist Zoe had a one-night stand and didn't return all night, she calmly watched in the early morning light as her husband, who was somewhat disheveled in clothes, appeared in front of her, without mania or hysteria. Just lightly asked who he was with and whether he wanted coffee, so he left. She always trusts her husband's abilities and knows that emotional outburst should not be between husband and wife, but rather should be shared. What she knows better is that Underwood's purpose is to obtain important information, but the way he uses just happens to be physical.
She occasionally shows weakness, but never misuses her emotions to let the media or opponents grab hold of her husband. She is always just an assist, firmly leading him to glory with every step. "At that time, the wife of the President was too bad at managing her emotions, resulting in cracks between the husband and wife at critical times. Finally, Francis, the Vice President, found their weaknesses, and succeeded in taking over the throne.".
Women with high EQ are good at controlling cause and effect, so they exercise restraint and self-discipline. "They know what causes can have what consequences. They don't suddenly lose their face when attending a boyfriend or husband's party, either leave the party or continue to lose their face. They also don't let their little emotions dictate them.". Because often this time is the most testing time for one's cultivation.
Some people say that I don't like people with high EQ, they are not pure.
I said no.
People with high EQ fully understand the fragility of human nature and always give warmth. Like someone who delivers umbrellas on rainy days, they bring warmth and firm strength. Women with high emotional intelligence also fully understand the complexities of human nature, and always give leniency and understanding, like a sudden stop when anger boils. Such women deserve admiration. Underwood said, "Does Clare make me respect? Yes. Does she also make me afraid? I think so, too."
Emotional intelligence represents a person's ability to control their own emotions and recognize the emotions of others. Emotional intelligence is not innate, but acquired through constant experience. And these accumulated experiences can be like a treasure added to you, enabling people to actively face challenges, and also giving others the power to warm their hearts. As the 35th President of the United States, John F. Kennedy, said, "If we are strong, our value will be self-evident. If we are weak, no more words will help."
