Sexual life not only requires both parties to understand each other, but also requires both parties to study and summarize experiences together. The more the husband and wife respect each other's sexual reaction, wishes, habits and hobbies, the more they can make each other reach Orgasm.
Reasons for the lack of Orgasm
1. Organic reasons
Among the organic causes, the first is diseases of the reproductive system, such as diseases of the vulva, vagina, uterus and accessories, bladder, urethra, pelvic inflammation, tumors, trauma, etc., which can cause pain and discomfort during sexual intercourse, thus inhibiting the emergence of Orgasm. In addition, diseases in all systems of the body will inhibit and interfere with sexual response to varying degrees, and destroy the acquisition of Orgasm.
2. Psychological reasons
Foreign scholars have studied a large number of women who lack Orgasm, and found that more than 95% of the patients are caused by psychological factors, which mainly means that women are taught to restrain sexual behavior throughout childhood, adolescence and adulthood, and they are required to restrain sexual feelings or behaviors. Many sexual psychologists have pointed out that in modern civilized society, the sexual response to women is often constrained. Women in civilized society should not let sexual reaction be naturally and strongly revealed as in Urgesellschaft.
Some are full of hypocrisy and lack of scientific sex education, which leads to many women being ignorant or misunderstood about sex knowledge. For example, it seems that 'decent women' should only have children and should not show a pursuit of sexual pleasure. The ideal "family style" is to restrain oneself, passivity and shyness during sexual intercourse, which hinder women's sexual life and prevent them from achieving Orgasm.
① Traumatic experiences in childhood or adolescence, such as incest or rape, can also cause the lack of Orgasm.
② Disturbance from external environment, such as inadequate living space and fear of being seen by children or outsiders; Bed discomfort, strong light or noise; Unsatisfactory work, disputes over personnel, financial difficulties, and concern about housework can all be the reasons for the lack of Orgasm.
③ Unharmonious marital relationship
There is a lack of emotional communication, mutual distrust, or differences in sexual views between couples. These not only harm emotions, but also make it difficult to make sexual life harmonious.
④ Distraction of attention
Some women during sexual activity are afraid that their behavior will harm their dignity and they are afraid of losing their husband's favor, so they excessively pay attention to their appearance, words, and husband's reactions; Or constantly recalling past events; Or worry about getting pregnant, etc. This distraction can affect the development of the sexual cycle and hinder the arrival of Orgasm.
⑤ Life is monotonous
The main manifestations are: the man alone controls the way and the way of sexual life. During sexual intercourse, the man only cares about himself and does not consider the physiological characteristics of the woman. The man is eager to have sexual intercourse before the woman has sexual desire, and the man ejaculates before the woman reaches Orgasm; The woman reluctantly deals with the other party, often treating it as an obligation, as a last resort; The woman does not understand her own structure, knows nothing about sex, and does not know which type of sexual activity she likes; The woman cannot express her favorite touch methods, sexual positions, and duration to her husband during sexual activity.
These women often believe that women should not talk about how to have sex, and they are afraid that it will make their husbands unhappy and unhappy. These women often believe that women should not talk about how to have sex, and they are afraid of making their husbands unhappy, so they obey their husbands' orders in everything.
⑥ Anxiety
Many women worry about not having an orgasm as soon as they have sex, and the more worried they become, the less likely they are to have an orgasm.